posted on Feb, 14 2013 @ 01:47 AM
I apologize ahead of time for my long post. I am terrible and brevity sometimes because I have too much to say about things and am not good with
summing up my thoughts into 2 sentences like so many other people can... heh.. This isn't twitter anyways it's a forum *shrugs*
Everything in moderation: is what I've learned over the years as advice for you.
It can be really hard at times (or almost all the time) to give space and time away from someone you're really into and want to be around a lot.
Fact is It ruins relationships, and you probably are feeling like you can hardly help but to be at fault for being around too much. You don't want to
be clingy and suffocate them (blah blah). Sometimes they will start lying about what they are doing or where they've been when you ask and might
start becoming distant or deceiving with what is going on in their lives, as what sounds like what probably happened in your case. It's common, it's
happened to many good women (lol) Don't beat yourself up over it, you were just really into him and he backed out of it all to go his own way for
whatever underlining reasons that also may have played a part other than you being around him often.... anyways, you'll learn for next time to have
more self control (don't text so much or contact them in any way often) and to give more space (give them days sometimes!! I know it's hard...)
And aside from that, I hate to tell you, and although I may be wrong, is that 2 other things may have been going on aside from that you may have been
just annoying him (sorry for being insensitive)
a) He simply lost interest in you. He ran out of things to talk about and no longer was interested in what you have to say. The spark of curiosity and
adventure that you get when first becoming interested in and seeing someone burnt out for him and he decided to move on.
b) He's depressed and has lost his optimism, spunk, and energy for life in general. So this might be his problem not because of you.. This happens
to many at certain points in life. People can randomly close off socially for some time and become a spectator in the world instead of an active
And eh, I'm gonna to try my hardest to take my own advice next time a new guy shows up in my life (whenever that might be, hopefully soon) Anywho,
time will make stuff better learn from your mistakes yadda yadda and try again later with different behavior.
Thank you for your story - some people are just generally becoming not so nice in this world either, try to keep your head up and carry on!