posted on Feb, 7 2013 @ 05:13 PM
I love getting you guys opinions on things. This is mostly a pure rant, as indicated by placing it in the rant forum. I recently read about couples
emailing, or even sending cards via snail mail to officially uninvite frineds, and family to their nuptials. I thought it was a joke, and that surely
very few couples would dream of being so tasteless, crass, and other wise self absorbed. Then I read on and discovered it is the new big thing, and
gaining ground, and albeit a bit slower social acceptance.
The reasons sited for doing this is financial, and venue constraints. OK... so what? Every wedding I have ever attended had money, and venue
constraints. They all do! Unless your are marring into money, or are independently wealthy yourself. This has not changed since the beginning of time.
What is wrong with the old fashioned way of just not sending an invite to those you cannot afford to have come? That has always worked in the past.
Why now does this new generation of bridezillas feel the need to let you know, unequivocably that you didn't make the cut to be present at the cosmic
event of their wedding?
I have purchased many a gift for couples who's weddings I was not invited to. I was not offended. I understood that hundreds were coming, and they
just couldn't have everyone. If however the couple had been so purile as to send me an official UNinvite they would have recieved nothing but a very
scornful letter at how horribly rude they were.
I have not talked to a single personal friend, or aquaintance that thinks this is acceptable. What do you guys think? You obviously know where I
stand. Why not send out something like: "Due to the financial, and venue constraints of our wedding, we will all be meeting at town park at 1:00PM
for an informal reception. Everyone is invited to bring yor own dish, and beverages, and celebrate with us." Then only send out invites that you wish
to the private ceremony. VIOLA! Everyone is happy, and no one is offended, or left feeling like a second rate person, and you aren't left spending
one extra dime.
No let's not be sensitive or think of others, lets just offend our friends, and family en masse because we feel so entitled. Please join me in my
rant, or become the target of ranting. That's why we love this forum!!!