reply to post by whyamIhere
I don't understand the militant need to win at the particular thing being competed in..?
If you didn't win, find something else to compete in which you:
a) Enjoy anyway, and/or:
b) Are good at, so that you are more likely to win..!!
My son as an example, was a bit gutted when he realised he wasn't very good at soccer & couldn't play with his best friend during recess, who is a
very good little player for an eight yr old.
My solution? We can practice soccer, but in the meantime, have you noticed how good you are at:
c) Creative Writing
e) Strategy games
f) Being a leader
He was quite pleased on reflection, and has clarified a few ambitions, resolved his perspective on what is most important in life. He's looking
forward to getting some soccer practice during the summer, after I've recovered from surgery to fix my back (which is why we couldn't practice
together in the first instance..) - but he knows now that you don't have to be good at everything, to be very, very good at a few things.
Everyone gets a trophy? How about we start guiding our kids according to their own skills and interests, and not according to our own preconceived
notions of what is virtuous or 'cool'... Trouble is, our education system here in the UK is still pretty focused on the EGAT principle, (and a load
more besides - such as health & safety idiocy) - holding the academic kids back, academically, so that the less academic don't feel unhappy about
their own lack of academic progress.
It's time we started recognising the virtue of skilled trade-craft once again in the UK, encouraging less academic kids to be more skills-oriented,
so they can be ambitious in the sense of becoming 'master of a trade', self-employed & creating their own opportunities - instead of drifting along,
depressed because they weren't so great at exams, ending up as warehouse/ factory/ welfare fodder... Sadly a lot of 'practically-capable &
bright-minded' kids will end up as such under/unemployed adults, simply because education isn't prepared to receive & develop them according to
their needs, interests or intellectual 'type'.