posted on Feb, 22 2013 @ 11:57 PM
reply to post by TheLiesOfEden
I am responding to this as I feel that the reasons that some Gay's occasionaly feel anger, dismay, fear and a sense that no matter what they do or
how they try to explain to Heterosexuals that they are not a threat and are just people like all people....is because they are not only responding to
the WRONG Heterosexuals but they are also creating alot of their own fear and other negative emotional responses.
Now I am not Gay and I do not profess to know what Gay people are feeling but I am different just like Gay's are different as far as a type of Human
Now it is true that I am NEVER going to be afraid of what another person or group of people may say or do and although to a person who intends to
start either a verbal or physical fight...I am their worst nightmare come true...it is extremely rare that when a person starts such a conflict...I
ever have to hurt them physicaly or emotionally...although it has happened mostly because it was MY FAULT not to first give them adequate warning in a
manner that was NOT THEATENING.
In two seperate cases...1. A Large Heterosexual Man believes I have his girlfriend back stage at one of my shows and because of this and his size
combined with drink...he confronts me screaming with the intent to do me harm.
2. A Heterosexual Man who has lost his girlfriend to a Gay Woman...sees an obvious Lesbian Couple come into a bar he is at and after many drinks he
confronts the larger of the two women screaming insults.
A single line of action can difuse the situation in both cases reguardless if you are ME or a 99 lbs Woman or a 180 lbs Lesbian Woman with tatoo's
and piercings...and the FIRST STEP IS NOT TO RESPOND in an agressive or violent manner in either body language or physical stance. If you do this the
Man will respond in a Male Fight Mode.
The second thing you do is be sypathetic in your words and physical stance...THAT with throw a Heterosexual Male into a state of confusion because he
has already pictured in his mind how you will respond as well as what punch will be thrown first. Using such statements in my back stage issue I
would say to him...You know....I have been telling the stage crew not to let any women back stage because it really sucks for anyone not to know where
their girlfriend is at a concert. Let's go back stage and see if she is there. Tell me what she is wearing. THIS ALWAY'S DIFUSES THE PROBLEM. Of
course I look at one of my crew and they radio back to get this girl out of the back as they know to listen in to such a conversation as I will not
allow them to push back a guy who comes to the side of the stage if I am there.
With the Lesian Couple....same basic principle...SYMPATHY. The man is screaming...they do not know why. Instead of reacting viloently all they have
to do is say...Honey...are you OK? You look like your very upset. Why don't you sit down with us and tell us about it?
If he is still yelling....Listen...we understand that some people don't like Lesbian couples. We are sorry if we offended you but we are people too
and it hurts us when you yell like that. If you really hate us that much...we rather leave than upset you. We feel you need to be here more than we
This WILL WORK.