Originally posted by DestroyDestroyDestroy
Love and accept your depression, don't be at war with it; it's a war you can't win.
Where Do Construals Come From: Basic Human Motives
Chief complaints were "irritability, regressive behavior, apathy, crying and truancy" which lasted for a year.
Originally posted by Maxmars
I am fairly over the average age of ATS members, and I can at least share with you something I have come to believe about this unfortunate affliction.
First, I recognize it as an affliction. My depression is not me. But then, neither is my shadow - though we both remain inseparably joined in this reality. To some, this can inspire a battle, as others have sagely pointed out, that cannot be won. But more to the point, it needn't be a war at all.
One can laugh when depressed, one can be brilliant when depressed, one can be glorious when depressed. Depression is an affliction.
It is not being 'sad' or 'distant' or any of the outward affectations that is a primal symptom of depression. Those 'appearances' are how 'depression' is advertised, sold, and marketed - explained to those who only "see" it as happening to someone else. In fact, these are the same who might tell you to "snap out of it" or "get a grip" or ignorantly (and perhaps innocently) ask you, what "exactly" are you depressed "about?"
It is fundamentally, and ultimately indisputably true that been keen-witted, or spiritually-balanced, or simply socially apt, is all it takes to conceal depression form others. Quite disappointingly, it is also too easy to think that being 'sad' means you suffer from depression.... thank you marketing. Sometimes it natural to be sad.
Good physical health; as well as many mental disciplines can make coping with depression much MUCH easier. Faith... real faith.. can also reduce depression to a paltry annoyance.
But - and this is big - you can not 'cure' depression without self-realization. A feat which precious few have achieved - though many may believe they have.
Be prepared to coexist with these moments of depression. You needn't "defeat" it, only know that it is a thing you can neither avoid nor wish away. The trick is, when you get yourself physically and mentally disciplined, you wont want to... you will be able to account for it, study it, if you're lucky finds some "cues" of it's coming and going, and eventually - maybe - reach the point of self-realization that we all seek in our own way.
Until then, always remember. You are not alone. Others have been where you are, and if they can get past it, so can you - I promise. In this way, we are all children of the same human condition.