posted on Jan, 6 2014 @ 09:28 PM
Hard one to judge; some people in ALFs certainly are probably abused in one way or another; but with dementia (often sudden onset or worsening from a
hidden stroke, etc.) anything can seem like abuse, even someone coming in to help you get dressed or take a shower, or not getting the food you want
for a meal.
What I'm wondering is how in hell you punish an 86 year old for attempted murder. You gonna put him in jail? Hell, that's assisted living too, and
maybe the food will be better.
I searched the threads to see what was out there on assisted living conditions. Just placed a loved one in a facility and the care is definitely
abuse. Tried to get things fixed through the publicly traded company responsible, but they won't do a thing and give me the same story that you are
preaching. In the process of moving him out and filing suit and publicly exposing the care at this facility in order to discourage other seniors from
Abuse does not have to be physical. In my case it is putting the resident to bed in urine covered sheets, not cleaning him or the bathroom properly
after defecating, not washing soiled clothes, intentional failure to reset call buttons leaving resident stuck on the floor or on the toilet and
elsewhere, verbally admonishing the resident for pressing the button, refusing to address family when inquiries are made, refusing to provide family
the care givers names when asked, poor condition of rooms, lying about level of care in order to induce enrollment in the assisted living facility,
and the list goes on and on.
All over the net you see these same complaints and they are always dismissed as demented patients making things up. Having witnessed these abuses
personally, I call BS to all these arguments.
Anyone know the proper way to proceed against a facility for these crimes against humanity? I plan to dedicate the rest of my life to ensure that this
happens to as few as people as possible. Please u2u me if you feel you could assist. thanks