Throwing people away for things seems to be becoming all too common anymore.
Please explain to me why I need to take from the mouths of my children to give to people who take advantage? How can people take so much and instead
of saying thank you, turn around and stick their hand out for more? Why is it acceptable to play and not better yourself, but absolutely expect
someone else to provide it for you?
I am not talking about government handouts either, are people just so used to that aspect that it bleeds onto everyone in their lives?
Just one example from last weekend, an old supposed friend of nearly 20 years moves into my home with his wife. They treat us like crap, sit on their
butts and watch me cook and clean for them. They supposedly needed the help, but were "stocking" up on expensive power tools and buying multiple
vehicles. We mentioned feeling taken advantage of, and they moved out that day without a word to me. They literally moved their stuff out past me,
while I made dinner for everyone. No Thanks, no see ya later, not even an FU after living in my house for 6 months. I don't hear from them for almost
6 months, I hear private about conversations between my husband and I, brought up by mutual friends, but nothing from them.I know for fact they are
untrustworthy, but I thought they were friends.
Well this weekend I get an email from said friend, and I open it thinking that maybe they have come around.
OH NO!! It was a spam message for a weight loss supplement. He actually had the balls to ask for money (in my eyes) after all that was said (or not)
and done over this last year. I was livid! Absolutely livid!
As a lady it offended me even more that it was for a weight loss supplement. My husband got something different from him. I lost over 85 lbs from
stress in the course of a year, so trust me I don't need to lose any more. He was aware of this fact but the sheer insensitivity disgusts me!
Other friends want things from us too! I never was told Thanks for trying to help them out last month, it is just assumed that since we could then so
we will continue. We aren't rich people by anyone's standards. We work hard and save money by budgeting and saving up for what we need or want. I
always scrimp and save for Christmas. I work on that budget for months! I cook from scratch and don't leave my house for weeks at a time to save gas
to accomplish what I want. This year I spent most of that on others. My kids don't NEED more toys. They got the clothes they needed and some books.
One toy from their dad and I, the rest was from distant family that make up for the distance at the holidays. We knew of the need this year and chose
to do other things.
Is it fair of people to turn around and just expect more? I can't afford to support other people's poor choices. I feel like a pretty crappy person
for being so angry about this, but where does this stop. People are being rewarded for poor choices and it is falling on the responsible among us to
take care of it. I am tired of it. Someone even took the leftover's for my husbands lunch today, from my fridge yesterday.So he took my $20 bill that
has lived in my wallet for weeks now, because I like to have a couple of bucks on me. Because of the denseness of people, I literally have $2 to my
name at the moment. As long as they have an easy dinner tonight though right.
I know what it is like to be homeless, I lived it!
I know what it is like to be hungry, I lived it!
I know what it is liked to be abused, lived it!
I know what it is like to be alone and kicked while you are down, I lived it and wish none of this on anyone, but damn!!! They just keep kicking me!
I have always tried very hard to prevent others from having to live those things, or at least give them a hand when they are, because I had hands
extended to me. I don't understand the lack of taking any responsibility for one's own actions. If you choose to go to the bar instead of paying your
bills, THAT"S NOT MY PROBLEM!!!
I am tired of feeling like crap because other people pass out the guilt trips for not taking responsibility for their own lives.
Thanks ATS for letting me rant! It saved a few nasty phone calls that have been building up, and I really try not to be that person. Things build to a
point though, and I refuse to be a pushover. Now maybe I can communicate this to people without getting so mad!
edit on 4-2-2013 by woodsmom because: misspelling