Nursery only finds child's severed finger when cleaning the floor

reply to post by inj3ct0r


anyone with a bit of life experience would know that many parents need to work to support their kids, and as already pointed out, in the uk, help is provided by the govt to enable this

working parents should be applauded for making an effort to provide for their kids as well as setting a good example of a work ethic - placing a young child in kindergarten for a portion of the week also gives that child a chance to socialise and integrate with other kids, and allows mum/dad to get other important day to day stuff done without their baby/toddler just being left in the cot/playpen.

reply to post by ollncasino


The problem with Society and this Capitalist World is that we/you are expected to work from dusk till dawn 24/7 all year round.... whoever has children dont get to see them grow up properly....

We need to get back to less hours of work for parents!!

I know everything goes up in costs and people feel they have to or need to work longer.... this is nothing but 'slavery' really.... and your children are failing because of it....

reply to post by TruthxIsxInxThexMist


I wouldn't say that is neccesarily true..

I have 3 kids and see plenty of the little bastards, as does my partner. She works part time, I do full-time but work a shift pattern which affords me 4 days out of 8. It all boils down to making the right choices to get that work/life balance.

Besides, it has always been the way that at least one parent had to work from dusk till dawn, nothing has changed. In fact, "back in the day" when the man was out tilling the fields etc, the woman would be working all day cleaning, cooking and looking after the home/children, all without the added help of modern equipment.

In fact, it is probably as a result of the automation of many household tasks from the 1950's onwards that has enabled women to be freed to go to work, which itself would have driven up inflation by introducing more earners into the economy, so it is a double edged sword.

Originally posted by ollncasino

The couple are planning to sue so that Sophie can have plastic surgery on the finger when she is 18. She is likely to find some tasks including playing instruments more difficult.

The telegraph
Daily Mail

Good God! Why did they even try to re-attach the finger? Don't these idiots know that, in children up to 9 years old, fingertips can regrow all by themselves if you don't seal up the wound and the wound doesn't go past the last knuckle?

Children can regrow severed fingertips! (human regeneration)

The article said the finger was severed right at the 2nd knuckle. That's right at the point that the child can regrow the finger without any scarring and develop a fully functioning finger if they would just leave nature take its course and not seal up the end of the wound!

Why isn't this common knowledge? How many small children have to be disfigured because of medical ignorance?

reply to post by ollncasino


I agree, babies should NEVER be left at nursery.

Frankly, i think nurseries are a terrible idea full stop. If people don't want to raise their own children, they shouldn't have them.

There was NO way i was ever going to allow my kids to go to one of those places, staffed by idiots on minimum wage, who are probably thinking more about going out on the lash later, than looking after the kids properly.

Then there's the abandonment issues that must be felt by very young kids too.

All for what? To be able to afford a larger house, a newer car?

reply to post by MysterX


Oh, get off your high horse.

If you do your research, you can find some very good nurseries. The one I placed my daughter in at 12 months was excellent (and cost it as well!) and she learned how to interact with other children, basic reading, numeracy etc, as well as being well fed and cared for.

And I didn't put her in nursery so I could afford a bigger house or car, but rather so my ex (my daughters mother) could go out and work instead of relying on state handouts. Surely that is the better of the two options? If she had stayed at home and relied on state handouts to survive, she'd be pillared for that as well wouldn't she?

Originally posted by stumason
reply to post by MysterX

 

Oh, get off your high horse.

If you do your research, you can find some very good nurseries. The one I placed my daughter in at 12 months was excellent (and cost it as well!) and she learned how to interact with other children, basic reading, numeracy etc, as well as being well fed and cared for.

And I didn't put her in nursery so I could afford a bigger house or car, but rather so my ex (my daughters mother) could go out and work instead of relying on state handouts. Surely that is the better of the two options? If she had stayed at home and relied on state handouts to survive, she'd be pillared for that as well wouldn't she?

The view from up here is fine, think i'll stay on my high horse matey.

And frankly no, i don't think abandoning your baby daughter into the company of apathetic strangers so you and your ex can be efficient worker bees in the system, is preferable to solid parenting.

If you do, fine...but remember, you reap what you sow mate, hopefully there'll be zero to minimal psychological damage, but if your daughter starts displaying behaviour consistent with emotional trauma suffered by Mummy and Daddy leaving her with strangers...remember these posts, and your replies.

And since when were the ONLY two options to neglect your children in favour of skivvying for some git of a boss, or lounging around on state benefits?

Never heard of...savings? Planning ahead for financial security BEFORE pumping out a family?

There are all aspects of the spectrum available to consider, but the most important consideration MUST always be the emotional stability and wellbeing of the children...if people cannot commit to that simple truth, they should never have started a family in the first place.

High horse or not, it's the way it is...or bloody well should be.

From what I can tell, they must be above average earners because they are paying L900/ month for child care. With that in mind, you think they would get a little more for their money.

It's too bad most families have dual working outside of the home parents. But it's difficult to blame the government when we all make choices that set our financial situations in play prior to having children. It seems the poorer one is, the more likely they are to raise their own children, at least in the USA. The higher one's income, the higher their debt and standard of living, thus necessitating the need to earn more money.

reply to post by Gridrebel



What you just said does ring true I think... I don't have any kids so I cant really debate all that much on the issue but I can say what I think could or should work and I think that if you are at home with your children, they are more likely to grow up knowing that you cared and loved them.... whereas if you send them off to Nursery/School from a young age and they hardly see you, they will be more the opposite.... feel unloved or wanted!!

Just my opinion... I could be wrong but if you look at todays Society and how people are these days with gang culture, drugs, guns, mental problems.... it seems to me that most of this can be nipped in the bud with great parenting skills which schools aren't really there for.....

humans have a long history of sharing child care duties, its part of living in a community and keeping up to the many responsibilities that we have.
when approached in a sensible way this can be a great boon to a child. i have to see this negative attitude as not only high-handed but unrealistic and lacking in real life experience.

reply to post by Gridrebel


£900 a month is about right for someone doing roughly full time hours... I used to pay around £750 a month 7-8 years ago when my daughter went. You do get a fair chunk of that paid for in Tax Credits from the state though, depending on your pay.

reply to post by MysterX


I had such a good reply typed out to address your unbelievably condescending attitude, but you lucked out as my browser failed me and lost the whole damned thing..

Not that I need to justify myself to you, but let's just say that my first wasn't "planned", it was a failure of the prophylactic industry... Never the less, I faced up to my responsibilities and urged my ex to keep the baby rather than abort it, which is something I am generally against...

However, she needed to go out to work and I could hardly give up work, so she went into nursery at 12 months. It has not done her any harm and in fact, compared to her step brother who did not go to such a place, she has excellent interpersonal skills, does better at school, is better behaved generally and socially popular. No signs of any kind of trauma to her young psyche and, to be honest, I think your just talking total BS.

As I already stated, I have 4/8 days off anyway, so she had plenty of time with me and still does. I have every faith she will grow up to be well adjusted and go on to do great things, whatever your obnoxious and condescending opinions might be.

With my fiancée, I can support the whole family now on my salary, but she chooses to go out to work part time just to help out. Again, with my shift pattern, our 2 year old son spends much of the time at home, but there are times when he is sent to his aunts for the day.

I find it highly reprehensible you should call into question someone's parenting when so little information is available to you in the first place. I would laugh my bollocks off if you should ever find yourself in a position where you are the sole parent, or lose your job and all of a sudden your cushy little existence is brought crashing down around you. Sometimes life isn't perfect and sometimes s**t happens.

What you just wrote demonstrates the closed mind of someone who genuinely thinks they are better than everyone else. Enjoy your time up there on the horse, matey.