Any scorpios out there: destructive, losing the plot kinda tendencies, when you have had enough

a while back, I burnt out at work, and found myself, really wound up and burning bridges left, right and centre with people, I am wondering of others who have experienced this, or am I just alone with it

am wondering if any fellow scorpios will hear me and know what I am getting at

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Uh... YEAH!

Let's see I think I have 2 no re-hire stats at 2 separate grocery stores, even though they both had me in manager positions working 50 hours a week..

I've grown up since then. It's still tempting, because no one knows better than a scorpio, am I right? Course I am I'm a scorpio.

You'll learn in time it's more powerful to just Be the Eagle and Soar above the "battle field." In this way you can focus your powerful emotions and your Force into doing good for the world, rather than stinging those who oppose you.

But you should also be good at being reborn out of the ashes.. I have had about 4 separate lives now, death and rebirth forever man.

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When backed into a corner a scorpion will often sting it's adversary and itself.I have done this to myself in the past. I have never had any regrets over my decisions but it might have been better to cool down a bit before choosing a course of action that some my consider a little rash and short-sighted.

it is quite a difficult job and there had been plenty of stuff over three years, comments and things said by others, the work place had been good to me, and all, but, none of them were perfect either, I was assaulted bvy another member of staff and I found myself just, really so worn with doing a prof qualification, working with 6 clients and, just mentally, emotionally and spiritually kinda exhausted, I walked out and then sorted things out a little and came back, but there was an investigation and all that and the senior manager seem to be gunning for me because of absence in the first year

it feels like once the qualification is done, the time has come to at least try and move on

energy is low at present, but I guess is rebuilding, it's weird the way scorpios seem to go through the devotion with every cell of their being to kinda exhaustion and then they renew and find a kinda magic again in life

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I believe it is the rampant materialism of our world that causes these "burnouts". Sometimes we have to take one step back so that we can take leaps and bounds moving forward.

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This is an interesting thread.

I am married to a Scorpio. It is one of the most challenging experiences I have ever had. We have been married for a VERY long time, and everyday there seems to be a new obstacle in our life. Most of them seem to be created by him. It almost seems like scorpios only want something until they have it. Or maybe it is that nothing is ever good enough. Maybe being a scorpio, you could shed some light on this aspect of the scorpio personality.

well, just to the other poster, when you say materialism, are you talking about endless, consumerism for things with money, because all I was trying to do I would say is keep a roof over my head and have money to live and eat and go out on occassion, dont buy many clothes, cds, films anything, really

as for new soul, well, scorpios can be complex people and yes, all somewhat individual, and also aspected by moon and ascendant things which can impact, there is significant cancer in my chart or cancerian moon, which I definitely feel like plays part,

socrpios are often driven, but on a greater quest to find self and meaning in life, they sometimes feel stagnant with routine, not settled with it and at times, I do feel they subconsciously/unconsciously create drama in order to shake things up, so they may grow and feel alive, as weird as that sounds, sometimes it seems that way

I sometimes don't honestly understand my responses to things, I know that power and powerlessness has been a theme throughout my life and at times when I have demonstrated power and resourcefulness in some work and hobby related endeavours, at times I have felt , this has courted resentment from others

we can be egostisical or at least seem that way on the surface and we are so far from perfect, but we do know this, but it can be quite crippling when we pour everything we have into something and then, still feel kinda dammed and advised of our huge fallibility all over again

this may not resonate and could probably go into my own stuff another day,

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Yep. That sounds about right. We scorpions are very guilty of only wanting something until we have it and then it's time to move on to something else. But until we do actually have whatever our target may be, we REALLY "need" it. It's odd really... Even to me. I can't explain it in better words than just saying that it's just the way I feel.

As far as frustration and whatnot... I'm not that old around here. 25. BUT let me tell you, boy have I ALWAYS had some serious problems with getting way too frustrated over even the simplest of things way too easily. I can befriend people easily BUT piss me off, even accidentally ( which is extremely easy for someone to do ), and I have a major problem with stinging you without even intending to do so. It just comes natural I suppose...

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I don't think it's entirely Scorpios. I'm a Pisces, last year I started breaking down. I was getting sick a lot, partly due to work conditions, (cold wet environment, physically demanding job, long hours), I was tired of getting taken advantage of. I'm the guy who always says yes to extra work, covering shifts for guys who have hangovers, always says yes to overtime, willingly accepts more responsibility than I'm supposed to have. I worked myself to exhaustion, I was sick, I literally came home from work, slept got up ate, went to work felt like a bag of #, loathed everyone for putting their work on me and ended up physically ill with a psychotic break to top it off. I #ing lost it, for lack of better words. My neck, shoulders back, kidneys, throat all hurt. I had stomach problems, and I shook like I was freezing all the time. This persisted for months, leading to me missing a great deal of work, and spending a whole hell of a lot of time at the Dr's office and lab. Tests out my ass, for plenty of really scary things when you're in the position I was in. Tested for mono first, the menengitis, then thyroid problems, diabetes, hepatitis, gray's, parkinsons, Palsy, kidney function, Adrenal problems etc. They kept sticking me with needles, taking samples, Throwing out all these really terrifying "causes" to which none of them came back positive. I was over exerted, exhausted, sick as all hell, and all because of stress.

I worked myself to near death(not quite that extreme, but I looked god awful and felt pretty bad too.) So I quit, after a month or so of inability to work, lack of support from my employers(EVEN THOUGH I WAS THEIR #ING WORK HORSE WHO DIDN'T MISS A DAMN DAY!) So I told them to get stuffed. Took about 2 months to start feeling better, used my savings to travel across the country, spent some time back east with my fiance's family, and here I am. Happier, healthy and currently looking for work, which in itself is not that easy it seems. Hang in there. In some ways, I turned my life upside down on top of valid reasons, but if I didn't listen to my body, heart and mind where would I be now? Lots of guys got hurt in my line of work for lesser reasons, and I was in no condition to do the job.

I've pretty much cut everyone out of my life except family and my fiance as well. I just don't give to #s to care about people who seem so full of drama, self centerist pricks who only come my way when they want my care and support. I'm just sick of it. They can fix their own damn problems. Oddly enough, haven't heard from any one. In some ways that can be depressing, but when I really think of it. What kind of friend doesn't send you a text, email or call when last they heard you were sick. #ing people man, they can go rot.

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The Scorpio Motto is "I Want"

And we will probably get it too..

Gotta keep it new..

Being a Scorpio who has only wanted after the deeper sides to life of spirit, my girlfriend has nothing to worry about as "getting old."

Get a Scorpio involved in deep thoughts, or thoughts that lead to us being right, and we'll like you probably, but all people are different. Help us explore new frontiers.

But yea I am sure my girl thinks I'm difficult.. Good thing she is a strong Capricorn. She can hold her own, and has that quick wit I love.

Oh and if you are holding your own with a scorpio for this long you are not a "New Soul."

This would be more interesting, if someone was serving drinks. As a fellow Scorpio - I've noticed the World remains unbalanced. Intuition provides us the answer. Our egos are heavily inflated. And with that, I say... Game Over Man.

Originally posted by Americanist
This would be more interesting, if someone was serving drinks. As a fellow Scorpio - I've noticed the World remains unbalanced. Intuition provides us the answer. Our egos are heavily inflated. And with that, I say... Game Over Man.

not all of OUR EGOS are heavily inflated

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Hello fellow Scorpion,
I have found myself struggling to control my temper lately. I know the people on the receiving end have nothing to do with it but everything seems to be out to wind me up these past few weeks.

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I'm a Cancer, personally, but what you descibe has been a recurring theme to my life.

i guess, we all get to the point where life feels stale and in need of shift

perhaps, destruction being a form of creation is a very scorpio thing

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I relate, I've struggled my life a lot with these traits. even got myself in trouble with the law trying to stand up for what i thought was right. at work i can get too fiery as well. Ive only in the last year been able to see that i should as others have suggested, be the eagle. Its only in the last month or 2 i have started to put these things into practice. I actually joined ATS after being a long time lurker in order to write a post detailing how close i am to my Scorpio traits and some weird numerological coincidences or pattern embedded in my life as well as my experience with physics and their premonitions coming to pass in my life almost exactly how they said things would. My own awareness becoming stronger to the point of some sort of precognition or spidey senses that feel like de ja vu but remind me of a dream before something strategically important in my life plays out. I used to find it scary, i dont understand it by a long shot, but im willing to embrace it all and im here on ATS to ask people who know a whole lot more than i do what they think of my experiences.

I am a scorpio and so is my twin brother. We both have the same thing happening to us but I am a believer and he is not. So it seems that irrelevant to our beliefs we lived the same destinies. I started posting on this forum three days ago and have not yet been banned. So I will continue posting the truth that has been imparted to me because freely I have received so freely I shall give.

Hello fellow scorpios.
Just wanted to chime in and say that the following are the things other signs ABSOLUTELY have to avoid being to stay on our good side. At least this applies to me:

Being hypocritical - ooh that makes my blood boil
Compulsive lying
Being biased
Lack of loyalty - another blood boiler
Untidiness
Being deceptive - don't u dare..it won't work on us
Childishness - especially in relationship terms

That's just off the top of my head right now. Maybe someone else can add something I missed to the list.

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Yeah, Scorpio here chiming in. Have lots to add.

We are one of the most intense, most passionate, and also most sexual signs. Along with that, the stinger nature of the Scorpio carries a possibility for self destructive nature. For me it was lust, sex, porn....I always had it the worst out of all my male friends and the force became very self destructive in my love life.

What you have to do is find balance in all of your traits and indeed be like the eagle, or an open window which simply lets the breeze through, or an unmovable mountain over which all four seasons continue to evolve, while the mountain is unaffected. We already have lots of inner depth, inner strength, and a sense of power, so use it wisely and don't get pulled into to trivial & petty crap.

I too have bridges burned and can't return to certain jobs because I stood up for ideals, or wouldn't snitch on an employee for something he did because of loyalty, or stood my ground on various ideal positions & stances, or questioned the status quo, or tested authority. But if you do your horoscope it shows we can easily shift between being a boss or an employee and just being humble about things. So use that wisely.

With the self destructive nature, it requires self control to hone in on that aspect and have it under control. This requires studying and knowing thyself. Seeing the triggers that get you pissed and cause to get wrapped up in drama & politics. Once you know yourself and your vices/virtues, then you can start establishing balance & openness.

Also "NO ATTACHMENTS!!!" Let go of the past and past jobs, situations, people. Enter the new, the now, the future and make your way how you want.

I highly recommend meditation and a spiritual path as a means of balancing your vices.

Edit**** Yeah forgot to add, all through out my life when one phase of life would die, or I would go through dark nights, or rock bottom, a break up, a death in the family, loss of a job, whatever, again afterwards I would rise from the ashes like a Phoenix (See my avatar!!!!), and those mini-deaths & rebirths make you who are and I would never trade any of them for who I am and where I am today. I've been through hell & back several times. (brushes off shoulders, he he he)

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For me it was lust, sex, porn....I always had it the worst out of all my male friends and the force became very self destructive in my love life.

This must be a common problem for Scorpios. Almost like a highly addictive drug. For me, having my sexual prowess constantly praised by women IS DEFINITELY NOT HELPING THE ISSUE.