reply to post by Tasmanaut
So tell me, am I a fool for thinking I can do the seemingly impossible and stick by this person?
Yes a complete and utter fool. Because you think you can change somebody who does not want to change and probably deep down likes it like that. You
may not even be the only go to guy when # hits the fan for her.
That I can somehow sit through it and in the end, she'll find some happiness?
Seems you two have known each other for a long time, if it has not happened by now it will not happen. Go your separate ways. Happiness comes on its
own terms not your or hers, maybe you will both be happier if you were out of each others life. Its something to consider.
How do I deal with this?
You don't. There is nothing to deal with its a one way street to a dead end. Life is like a journey, you go down a path a street, sometimes you have
companions down that path, sometimes not. Now if you were going down a long journey, would you want to go with the person that irks and messes with
you constantly? Or with the one that does not?
Can a schizophrenic person ever trust?
She seems to be trusting and respecting the other boyfriends, even when she gets abused. She is just looking to do the same to some poor idiot who
will put up with it, ie a punching bag most likely because of her inaction and inability to do something about it when dealing with the ones she
really likes, and that is the one she keeps coming back to, the one she complains about to you. And that's were the whole love game comes in, and
that's were your idiot ass comes in.
So to answer your question.... YES, off course she can trust. She is doing that right now, its just not you she trusts. She just trusts you to be
there for her when she needs to get her frustrations out. And so! Just what kind of "trust" we talking about here?
Can they ever go for a day without abusing and hurting your feelings?
Yes they can go 2 days. Or maybe even a whole week. Possibly even months. But none of that means anything.
Can a person such as this have a meaningful friendship or relationship with another person?
Yes, even people like that have there binary equivalents, of which I think they should be with. However like I said she is just looking for an
emotional punching bag --> you. And you! besides your whole goody to shoes attitude probably are there because you want some of that, and are
willing to put up with it till you get it. After that however, I do believe its all going to fade.... You should contemplate that, meditate on it or
Will the mind games ever stop?
NO, because you are a target, you put yourself out as a target, you come off as a target. Your trying to put yourself in her life in a certain way,
you know what I mean. And as such the mind games will always continue. I suggest you can be friends with this crazy lady, but if it gets to anything
more then that terminate it, as that is were it will likely be going anyways. But you know you don't want to be friends right? In which case....
Oh ya dude! Do as you will.
I think I know the answers, I'm prepared to stick by her anyway, just because the good times are so beautiful, and the bad times seem to make me
stronger as a person.
Someone please advise me.
Wear plenty of sunscreen. And take plenty of vitamin C. Oh! and eat your vegetables.
As for the rest, I usually find that giving advice on such things is kind of pointless as its just something some people just have to go through and
experience. In a lot of cases it seems to be that you have to stick your hand in the fire, to learn about why you should not to stick you hand in the
fire. Tell you what! Do what you want and keep us updated on how it all went, you know for data gathering and educational purposes.
edit on 11-2-2013 by galadofwarthethird because: (no reason given)