I Now Pronounce You – Legally Bound!
I am going to wager this may spark many healthy and passionate debates here on ATS, but we need to take a look at the constraints being levied on
relationships, engagements, and marriage these days. Please remain respectful of each other views.
* Disclaimer* This is not a relationship, or marriage bashing thread only a hard look at what it’s become and my personal philosophies on the issue.
You don’t have to agree with anything I say here, but step outside the box and look at marriage, and relationships from a different perspective.
Over the past 40 years movements have sprung up that have virtually destroyed the bonds between men and women and driven a wedge so deep that a
marriage bond has only a 50% chance of survival.
Acceptance, tolerance, compassion and humbleness are all, but fleeting words that most relationships lack these days, even in the short time they are
together. What was once journeys, unions, partnerships and lifelong struggles as traditional family units have become narcissistic, self-centered
realities that focuses mainly on egos.
Many years ago marriage was a sacred bond that men and women entered into with each other. The bond was so strong that no matter what happened, in
the marriage and in life, the couple endured the ups and downs together.
If people truly love each other than why the need to rope someone into what we call marriage,
What are the benefits of marriage - to keep someone legally or physically bond so they don't run away?
Do we own the other person? Well technically it’s a contract that two people enter into legally, and so called religiously, but what’s funny, or
actually not funny at all is it only takes one to dissolve the contract, that two entered into. RT (Scratches head)
The divorce rate in America for first marriage, vs second or third marriage
50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end indivorce, according to Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of
Professional Psychologyin Springfield, Missouri.
Now if 50% of all marriages end in divorce, what are the remaining 50% happy? I would wager not, in fact, I would bet that another 25% are miserably
hanging in, 20% indifferent, and 5% happily married.
Now let’s look at the remaining 5%, even if the institution of marriage never existed, they would most likely still be happy and committed to the
other person, regardless of a legal contract.
People will give so many reasons why marriage is great, but the fact is that if committed to each other they can still enjoy the same life together
without the bonds of marriage.
Here are some reasons or excuses to get married IMO, that don’t hold water.
1) You are getting older and want to have a child.
2) All my friends are already married
3) I’m pregnant
4) You feel sorry for someone and want to support them
5) Prevent you from growing old alone
6) More sex anytime you want it
7) You won’t need to work as hard, because the other person will help balance things out.
8) People are happier married. Really go check the current divorce rates that I already posted.
9) To have someone to kiss and hold every night. I know quite a few married people who can’t wait to get a few hours alone by themselves, or out
10) Other married people telling you how wonderful marriage is, but the fact is most of them are not telling you the entire truth.
11) Someone to take care of the house, cooking, kids and laundry.
12) We been going together for years now and it’s time now.
13) The hall is already paid for and invitations have gone out.
14) We are in total love with each other and this is my soulmate. OK if your truly meant to be together then why the need to license them like a
15) The best is, we get tax breaks.
16) I have been waiting for my big day since I was a little girl, or boy
17) We need to profess our love in front of everyone at church and have a grand celebration. Guess what? After the wedding it’s just the two of
you, and if you want a large party then just have one.
In conclusion, being in love with someone is a wonderful thing. A couple that is truly in love and meant to be together for life will do so
regardless of the ceremonies and legally binding papers that are signed.
Show your undying love for that person and remain at their side, till death do you part, without the stigmas and legally binding ceremonies of the
past. Are we that insecure that we need to lock someone down because deep down we know they may stray later on?
I wish, hope and want for everyone on ATS to have, or find their soulmate, but not at the expense of losing oneself to a crumbling system.
Peace and love to you all,