I'm feeling a bit sad....

I'm not looking for sympathy of any kind....I'm just sad right now.

Today is the anniversary of the day my mother died.

It's really hard to shake the memories of that day...

I truly wish i could....but, I can't.

I'm just feeling sad and I wish I wasn't......

I hear you. My dad passed away about 5 months ago. I've had maybe 2 or 3 good night's sleep since then. Nothing seems the same anymore. :-/

Like you say, things I can't think haunt me now and make me sad.

I offer..at least maybe a level of understanding.

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Try to think of the good memories you have of her.

Also you should be happy for her even if you don't believe in an afterlife, because she'll always be in a better place.
There is no suffering there, she is at peace.

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Hold on to your memories - without having had her as your Mother you would not have the memories. I have known grief and it is personal, often private and always unique. The fact you are missing her supports the fact you love her and the love is always there.

It's okay to be sad but don't be sad for too long because your Mother would not want that. Be good to yourself.

Much Peace...

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It's ok to be sad. How you feel is how you feel. You can't help the way you feel.

Originally posted by Frogs
I hear you. My dad passed away about 5 months ago. I've had maybe 2 or 3 good night's sleep since then. Nothing seems the same anymore. :-/

Like you say, things I can't think haunt me now and make me sad.

I offer..at least maybe a level of understanding.

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Sorry to hear that...I truly am.

It must be hard for you....dealing with something that happened so recently...

You will be in my kindest thoughts.

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It's always hard to have a parent pass. Sorry for your loss, and I hate to say it, but this is going to stick with you for quite some time.

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Thank you.

I certainly try to keep the good close to my heart....

days like today though....well, they are a little bit more challenging.

These kind of anniversaries hit you twice a year, because the memories revisit when their birthdays come and go too. All we can do is be appreciative for the good times we had when they were with us.

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Thanks - and you will be in mine too. I honestly mean that.

Oh, hon. I'm so sorry.

I have no words of advice; just know you're in my thoughts. If you ever want to talk, I'm willing to listen

Hugs to you,

smylee

Originally posted by Amanda5
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Hold on to your memories - without having had her as your Mother you would not have the memories. I have known grief and it is personal, often private and always unique. The fact you are missing her supports the fact you love her and the love is always there.

It's okay to be sad but don't be sad for too long because your Mother would not want that. Be good to yourself.

Much Peace...

Oh, don't I know it...she would be livid with me for even taking the time to make this thread. It was for me though..not for her.

I have to acknowledge her life and passing in order to acknowledge my own existence. I am who I am because she left this world so soon.

I wouldn't be who I am otherwise.

feel your pain,the anniversary if my dads death is upon me on feb 7th and it,ll be 12 years......point is i still cry at certain things in every day life that reminds me of him......it never goes away but have your cry then your smile when you think of the good times.

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It took me a while before I could think of my dad and smile or laugh even at a memory. Then I would think ah! now I've got it. Then before you know it, the deep sorrow is back. It comes in waves doesn't it? Just feel it. It won' t last forever. You are in my thoughts.

Originally posted by MagesticEsoteric
I'm not looking for sympathy of any kind....I'm just sad right now.

Today is the anniversary of the day my mother died.

It's really hard to shake the memories of that day...

I truly wish i could....but, I can't.

I'm just feeling sad and I wish I wasn't......

Sorry to hear that, Mage. Boy, I tell ya, I will never go to another wake again after going to my mother's wake. Now, any time I think of her, even if the memory is of her from fifty years ago when she was young, my mind always conjures up the image of her in her casket from fifteen years ago. I HATE that!

Originally posted by antonia
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It's ok to be sad. How you feel is how you feel. You can't help the way you feel.

You have NO idea how refreshing that is to hear.......

Thank you a hundred times over!

Originally posted by JibbyJedi
These kind of anniversaries hit you twice a year, because the memories revisit when their birthdays come and go too. All we can do is be appreciative for the good times we had when they were with us.

Twice a year at the least my friend....for me anyway.

You're right though, appreciate the good times we've had....what else can you do besides dwell?

Dwelling gets us nowhere....real fast.

Originally posted by smyleegrl
Oh, hon. I'm so sorry.

I have no words of advice; just know you're in my thoughts. If you ever want to talk, I'm willing to listen

Hugs to you,

smylee

Thank you so much smylee......

I've always respected your posts on this site so, it means quite a bit for you to extend your kindness.

Thanks again.

Originally posted by sparky31
feel your pain,the anniversary if my dads death is upon me on feb 7th and it,ll be 12 years......point is i still cry at certain things in every day life that reminds me of him......it never goes away but have your cry then your smile when you think of the good times.

Sparky...you will certainly be in my thoughts come feb. 7th.

Thank you so much for your kind words.

Originally posted by 1007532013
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It took me a while before I could think of my dad and smile or laugh even at a memory. Then I would think ah! now I've got it. Then before you know it, the deep sorrow is back. It comes in waves doesn't it? Just feel it. It won' t last forever. You are in my thoughts.

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Coming in waves is very accurate.....the whole up and down scenario is very fitting