my husband, mr research didn't even get the chance to do chemo. He was always so healthy, the healthest of eveyone in our age group. we never
smoked cigs or did drugs, he would have a glass of beer after work. he was always normal weight (walked home from the train regularly) and walked up 4
flights of stairs like it was nothing for the first appointment.
they thought he had a kidney stone but nothing showed on the scan so they did another one with the injected dye, he had a tiny spot on his kidney,
surgery was planned for the of the first week of dec. the kidney and 1 lymphnode would be removed(if the lymph was clear no cheom or other
treatment would be needed .(we were assured this was not life threatening) sudden pain incereased he ended up in the hospital and needed a stent so
the urine would drain.
surgery was moved up to the end of nov. kidney and ureter removed. He looked so good afterwards. They
kept saying they got everything they could see, no cancer cells in the blood or urine. went in for the follow up, got the staples out. didn't know
if mr research would need chemo or not, Told us to follow up with the oncologist,
the day we were to see the oncologist started out with that horrible school shooting in conneticut, then we saw the oncologist, let this be a
lesson to you, they pass the buck to the oncologist, they get to tell you whats really going on
stage 4, no cure maybe chemo in 6 weeks but he needs to gain some weight first, I was so stunned, nobody prepared us for this. He died about
4 weeks later, the cancer had spread everywhere really fast.
they said this cancer is not genetic, but oocupational, that because his parents smoked in the '50's this caused him to have cancer now....all
the parents of that generation smoked (have you seen the crazy cigarette ads from back then) are we all going to get cancer???
life is not fair and this can happen to the healthest, everything seems fine and then everything changes in an instant.
My husband wanted to be a organ donor and was signed up to do so, I didn't think he could donate anything, but they said his corneas would still be
good and we could give the gift of sight to 2 people! something good to come out of this tragedy.
edit on 25-1-2013 by research100 because: spelling