reply to post by lampsalot
Hey, lampsalot. Before I say anything, I just wanna let you know I'm not trying to sound all indignant and pissed off or start an argument, LOL...just
wanna get that out of the way.
I'm only writing this cuz I noticed a couple of things that you said that I kinda wanna make a statement about as I am someone who has been victimized
before. It's hard for me to write about this in such a public fashion but I feel so strongly about this subject and I feel so strongly about the
things said about rape and incest and its victims by people who have never been victimized in this way...I just can't help but speak up.
I didn't become pregnant or contract any diseases because of the things that happened to me, thank God. If I had been impregnated, I wouldn't have
been able to live with it. It would've gone beyond how the very crimes committed against me tore my heart and mind and soul into a million pieces,
shattered me into a million pieces, broke me in a way that I cannot put into words...if I had become pregnant because of what I went through, I
would've lost my mind and probably killed myself. I am a Roman Catholic and I'm pro-life except in the instances of rape and incest or if the
pregnancy is threatening the mother's life, and I would have to be out of my mind to kill myself or abort a child from a consensual sexual encounter
because I believe both acts would damn my soul to an eternity in Hell, but I know what it feels like to be victimized and pushed to the edge of
sanity...and being impregnated through what I went through would have pushed me right over that edge of sanity and there's no telling whether I
would've aborted the child or simply killed myself. I'm still surprised that I didn't kill myself at some point...but I'm still standing and I'm still
here. For all the other victims of these crimes...some aren't as lucky as I was to not be impregnated, or not be infected by diseases, or to be able
to maintain their sanity after their ordeal, or to even survive their ordeal.
In one of your comments on this thread, you referred to rapists as jerks...I'm not attacking your choice of words because I'm assuming it was just an
off-handed comment and that you didn't mean to make it sound so frivolous. But if you actually do think that rapists are just jerks, I've gotta
say...men who perpetrate rape and incest are not simply "jerks". They are MONSTERS that destroy innocence and rip souls apart. Seriously think about
this...if someone held you down and violated and damaged your body, mind, heart, and soul and through the heinous act of rape, would you take it so
lightly as to simply consider YOUR rapist as a jerk? A jerk is the guy who cuts you off in rush hour traffic and then flips you off, not the guy who
violently and forcefully inserts himself into your body and degrades your very existence and uses you for his pleasure and to get off on the power and
control he feels as he destroys you.
You also brought up sexual education and contraception. Yet again, I'm not trying to attack your words...I just wanna ask you a few questions about
your statements because I don't see how sexual education and contraception have any place in a discussion about rape. Do you think that sex ed and
contraception is going to make one bit of difference to the underage girl who can't obtain birth control on her own and is being raped by her father
or any other family member? Or how about a woman of any age...let's think about a hypothetical woman for conversation's sake...she's maybe in her late
teens or early twenties, she may be a virgin or she may not be and either way she just does not have any intention to have sex with anyone any time
soon, so this hypothetical woman has no reason to be on any form of birth control...therefore if she gets raped, all the sex ed and contraception in
the world isn't going to do her a bit of good either. What is the relevance of birth control and sexual education in relation to unwanted, unplanned,
forceful sexual encounters?
I really want to stress that I'm simply wondering about these two statements you've made, I'm not attacking you or your words in any way so please
don't be cross with me for writing this. I just honestly want to know...you don't simply consider rapists to be jerks, right? And you don't honestly
think that sex ed and contraception has any place in a discussion about rape, right? And finally...you don't believe that either aborting a child of
rape or incest or carrying the child to term is just a simple, black and white, right and wrong issue, do you? And I'm not simply asking you these
questions, I'm asking anyone who happens to read this these questions. And whatever your answers may be, I completely respect your right to your
opinion if it doesn't happen to mesh with mine. I just wanted to ask.
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