posted on Jan, 23 2013 @ 04:26 PM
Originally posted by arpgme
It is easy for us to care about ourselves. We have pride, or in a negative sense we have self-pity feeling "bad" for ourselves.
That's not so easy in many situations. The true cost of pride is close to zero when you are dying of thirst in a desert. The same applies to dying
out of the lack of love and recognition. If you could do without love, anybody could do and love would be worthless. But in reality it is invaluable,
so not receiving love you will suffer no matter what.
Instead of seeing a person as an evil "enemy" we see them, instead, as someone who is suffering in the mind and therefore wanting to cause
harm and suffering to others.
In fact, more evil in this world is done out of ignorance and stupidity rather than hate, so it is not so difficult to forgive anyone who did harm to
you, but preventing or compensating this damage is a much more difficult task.
Someone says to me "You are stupid! You don't know anything!". I feel compassion for them because I only heard such meanness and judgment
the moment they said it
This may not be a meaningless judgement, because people have different life experience and some of them may have understanding which you do not
possess, and to them you may actually seem 'stupid' in certain situations.
If someone is saying mean and judging things and therefore taking mean and uncaring actions ("You are stupid!", "Things should not be this
way, you should do as I say!") they are individuals who actually SUFFERED hearing such things, otherwise the words wouldn't be there for them to
think and say.
Not necessarily so, because calling someone 'stupid' provokes him/her to learn and improve (either their reasoning to prove they are not stupid or
their knowledge and skill ), and this is a direct result of competition and offense which was introduced in this world so that individuals can
develop. Without provocation and without offense you would sit in a rocking chair dozing for eternity with a complete self-love and self-complacency.
Being born here is a provocation and offense in itself, because your spirit encased in a fragile body full of needs and suffering. The real compassion
arises from understanding that everyone here is in the same position as you, trapped in their body and life situation.
If you believe when you stop thinking bad of people you will be instantly happy, you are mistaken.
You will have to fix all your problems, and some of their problems, while many of them will be doing their best to make it impossible for you. That's
the real # you are going to face in this world, not some abstract stuff like changing your attitude and being happy in your own box. No, this won't
work in the long run. This is a very demanding world, you can't relax for the whole life and be happy, you must do so much to improve this world,
starting with your own life, and you are guaranteed to face resistance. Sorry if that sounded rude, this is how it is from my own experience. Good
luck and enjoy the ride!