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Originally posted by schuyler
Umm, OP. You've got 60 some odd replies now. Some of us are more compassionate than others and feel the relationship is worth saving. Most, I think, do not, though I did not count them up. As someone said early on, we're not counselors--just a bunch of average people who all have been through some relationships and have some perspective based on what happened to us.
Although you have made several replies, since your first post you have really brought nothing new to the table. We've heard your issues. We've offered what we can. You can accept or reject anything we've said. Do you really need another 60 replies here? I think you already have what we can give you here. You're welcome.
Let me illustrate by telling you something my ex did that drove me nuts. She had a hard time making decisions. If she went to a paint store to pick out white paint, she would get ten color swatches of slightly different shades of white, lay them out and consider them for an hour or more. There was so little difference between the colors that the exercise was futile, but she'd worry it to death until I became utterly bored with the whole thing and said, "Do what you want." It was a way of getting me out of hte picture, really. So she picked a white color to paint on our already white walls. They really didn't need painting, but the white had a faint yellow tinge to it and she wanted a faint blue tinge, but it was so faint that you had to be told before you could pretend to see it. So we did that and then she thought it might have been a mistake. it already cost me $5000 for the job.
You are beginning to remind me of her.
Originally posted by InTheLight
reply to post by forall2see
If you still love her and if she still loves you, then there is hope. One last ditch effort would be to try to approach her in an honest, heart-felt manner just to find out what exactly is wrong. Just ask her what is wrong. Isn't it worth a try?
Originally posted by resoe26
And you didn't belittle her because of what she was doing?
not even a "this is effin stupid"?
she just wasted $5,000 of your money....
what you gonna do about it homeboy?
Originally posted by forall2see
reply to post by AccessDenied
Thank you for your insight. I have never once thought it would be impossible to gain better understanding and value in our relationship. I will seek out any solution I can. It's just that I have hit a wall of frustration with the issue because I feel that I have exhausted all avenues. The way you put it makes complete sense. I will definitely look into the links you have provided when I get some free time today
Originally posted by forall2see
reply to post by dc4lifeskater
I try to be as understanding and compassionate as possible. I seriously feel horrible sometimes because I do not get that in return, and that leaves me feeling empty inside.
I believe my girlfriend suffers from some sort of paranoia based personality disorder, such as Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Borderline Personality, Bi-polar... I cannot really tell if it's just one of, or maybe a combination of them. I just know that something is not right about the way she reacts to the smallest things, and how heavily she emphasizes that so many feelings she has are somehow a result of my actions.