reply to post by forall2see
I think you know, deep in your heart, the right way to go....which is, out the door.
I know there are people who are saying, she has a mental disorder, she's in pain, only by extending overwhelming amounts of love and patience can you
WRONG. Who the heck has the patience of a saint, and the overwhelming one-sided love that she requires, to "fix" her?
She must FIX HERSELF, and sometimes that means, losing a partner and being alone. Only when these people hit rock bottom can they finally realize
that they have nobody to blame but themselves, and then, if they see the light, they will then seek help and improve.
I do not think it is fair, in a relationship, especially with children, to be with a mentally ill person who needs a ridiculous amount of love and
patience....there are many good women out there, who are not sick in the head and abusive. I know I sound cold, especially as a woman, but life is
too short to waste trying to cure somebody who cannot see that they are nuts.
You will end up hating her, and the children will not have a good role model of a relationship, they will only see an abuser and a would-be savior.
Relationships should be give-and-take. The minute it's all give and no take, it dies. You're not married to her, you've only got a year and a half
invested in it, so ask yourself: Are you willing to be her therapist, her punching bag, her savior, her emotional tampon? Don't YOU deserve a
partner who can also be there for you, and who won't berate you, insult you, and tantrum over every little thing, until you are walking on eggshells
every single day of your life?
I had a partner like this. I got damned tired of it, and I left. He refused to see how damaging and hurtful his behavior was to me. I got tired of
tip-toeing around, afraid to set him off. I was sad when I left, but never sorry. How did he end up? After trying to get me back for a long time,
and me realizing that he would never change, he gave up and found somebody as damaged and crazy as he was. Three years into the relationship, after
an alcohol-fueled fight, she shot him in his sleep and waited 30 minutes before calling 911. He died.
Leave the crazy for the shrinks. Save yourself. I've been there, done that, and never regretted walking away.
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FissionSurplus because: (no reason given)
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