posted on Jan, 22 2013 @ 07:58 PM
Everyone knows lying is wrong. And most parents try to instill in their children that this behavior is unacceptable. But new research has shown a
vast majority of parents will actually lie to their children in order to get them to behave.
Lead researcher Gail Heyman, of the University of California, San Diego (UCSD), has found certain variations in the way parents from the US and China
use untruths and white lies when dealing with their kids. The research is published in the International Journal of Psychology.
Heyman and colleagues found the percentage of parents who reported lying to their children for the purpose of getting them to behave was higher in
China (98 percent) than in the US (84 percent). The researchers believe the reason parents in China lie more in this manner is due to the fact that
demand for compliance is greater in China than in the US, and parents will do whatever is necessary to make their kids conform.
Other types of lying, however, were similar between China and US parents. In both countries, parents seem to be comfortable lying to their kids to
promote positive feelings and to support belief in the existence of fantasy characters, such as the Tooth Fairy.
Apparently I have a lot to say tonight seeing this is my third thread.
I wanted to share this article as I am not one of these people.
I have two children ages 5 and 7, and they know the truth about most. They do not believe in Santa, the tooth fairy or anything else that we lie to
our children about. We do not celebrate Christmas, although we do appreciate the time off of school/work so we can spend more family time together.
I have tried to be as truthful as I can to my children; they understand consumerism and the fact that we are a throw away culture.
Now this does not mean, they don't get toys, they still get what they want, we just recycle and reuse. When they are finished with a toy, it goes to
someone whose children need toys.
I do not think people understand how hypocritical they are when they tell their children not to lie, while lying to them.
What kind of influence is that?