At first I was'nt going to reply. Being an atheist ,seeing her side is very easy. Having been a single parent of two for 17 years, I have dealt with
all the same questions from my children. I never lied to my kids, not about this particular subject.
I looked at it this way. When a child is very young they have questions. The problem with the question of is there a God is not that complex to a
child. You see we as adults take away their ability to reason it out for themselves. With lies.
When a child ask's " Who's jesus? He/she is most of the time answered as follows. " He's the son of God, everybody knows that." The child now thinks
that question can't ever be asked again, at least not as long as their children. We take away from them by lieing. The child comes away from that
question with the attitude of " If everybody knows this, it must be true. Only later in life as they become adults, is that question able to be asked
That question answers itself as an adult. With adult reasoning skills. Which way the individual answers that question IMHO depends upon how much the
truth was twisted with the original question of a child. Is there a God?
I took my kids to church, I let them do the vacation bible school. I let them decide, very early in their lives. I let them answer their own
questions. I did not askew it with my beleifs or lack thereof. I did not perpetuate the lie of "Everybody knows that"
As a side note & for what it's worth. My kids each had a friend in school who's dad was a minister. My daughter went to school with his son and my son
went to school with his daughter. Both of these kids were absolute horrors. I mean little terrors. Complete lack of home training, complete lack of
respect for adults. Each had one visit to my home. After that, they were never invited back.
Long story short, the son killed himself as the authorities were getting ready to arrest him for child abuse & endangerment. The daughter , last we
heard was in prison. IMHO, don't ever lie to your children, not matter what. They want parents they can look up too, parents that are real role
models. Not parents that lie from their infancy till they become aware adults. Never ever lie to your kids. Their lives will be hard enough, even
harder starting it out with lies and fantasy. As adults we don't want to be lied too. It makes us angry when one does lie to us. Now imagine the
child that has been lied too by their parents since birth about this topic. And their thoughts when they realize for themselves that their parents
lied all those years ago. See my meaning.
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