Firstly, I would like to say I do agree with your premise.
The introduction of "feminism" into society is in my mind, one of the leading causes of the degradation of society today.
But I would like to present to you what it is like to be a victim of "feminism" from a woman's side. I never asked for any of this. I am quite in tune
with my feminine side and have never desired to ever be manly. Sure, I love wearing jeans and I pride myself on being able to do what men can do (fix
a lawnmower, rig up an appliance, build things) but, my biggest pride of all lies in my ability to do only what a woman can do..which is to give
I have spent all 35 years of my life fighting men who think that all women are feminists. It is one of the most painful things I can think of.
Starting with my father, who believed that only unliberated women were housewives and bore children, that all women should be executives, lawyers,
doctors, etc., ad nauseum, that a woman's greatest right is to have an abortion.
He abused my mother and left her when I was 18 months old and my brother was 3, because he could not stand that she put us children ahead of a career.
He has thusly spent the rest of my life trying to punish my mother for this, and when I started to get older, punishing me as well. In turn, I ended
up with no fatherly guidance, only verbal and mental abuse from a man who found me worthless unless I was in a high-paying career. When I had my first
child, my father was angry. He told my then boyfriend to leave me. When I had my second child almost 12 years later, he was angry yet again and told
my husband to leave me. My husband also thought I was worthless unless I was earning money, and so I worked, leaving my newborn at home with my
family. Not until I was laid off in 2010 did he finally realize my paltry income was not worth it, and I ended up staying at home. I love this life a
lot better. I am actually happy doing the cooking and cleaning and baking and running around.
Sadly, I am still being punished my father who believes my contributions as a homemaker to be worthless.
Now that he is realizing I no longer value his opinions, he is starting in on my 18 year old daughter, putting his warped values on to her.
She just got her first boyfriend and my dad went ballistic. Thankfully she is pretty strong willed and is sure of her convictions and very feminine
herself. She is disgusted with the women of today that "act like men". She turns heads everywhere she goes and I believe it is because she is
feminine, not feminist. Her guy friends are always telling her she is so different from the other girls they know..she is sweet, does not play head
games, and is happy in her own personality. There is a woman that lives in an apartment above her that constantly berates her
boyfriend/husband/whatever and I don't know how he deals.
At any rate, we are all victims of this. Because of this, my ideals are viewed as warped, old-fashioned, and crazy. Men now are so used to freely
available sex, that there is nothing to stay in a relationship for. Everything seems to be disintegrating. I for one, know this was intentional.
My dad is always posting these "progressive woman" pictures on his FB page, and these are the "liberated" types who view abortion as birth control,
who claw their way up to the top in their careers. Meanwhile he scoffs at my type. When I post a picture of a lovely dinner and dessert I create, he
bitches on about how it is not good (too fattening, diabetes, etc.). When I talk about being a mother, he seems really annoyed.
I have been the at-home mom, and the career mom, and let me tell you..at-home is so much more rewarding. I feel in "my place".
One of the most common things you will hear now is that a woman has a baby to "trap a man". I am sure there are women that do this, but most of the
ones I know have children because that is their biological calling. Telling a woman that if she does not abort means she is trapping a man is
sickening. My father did this to my mother, and both of my children's fathers used this wording with me. I was young when I had my daughter, but old
enough to know that I did not want to kill my unborn. I never asked a thing of her father and only after realizing he did actually need to be
responsible for her did I ask. When I got pregnant with my son, I was actually on birth control (depo) but got pregnant. I was once again accused of
"getting pregnant on purpose to trap"..it really is ridiculous. Sadly, there is a world of men out there that truly believe that all women trap men.
They don't realize that it takes two to tango and a baby is not created by one person.
At any rate, I am proud to be a mother and a woman, and I do not want to be a man in a man's world. Give me a nice kitchen anyday, and all my
household gadgets and you will have some great meals, a clean house, and to boot, some well-raised children!
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