Greetings ATS and Welcome to my First Thread.
First off i want to start off by thanking the Members Murgatroid and ItDepends , their positive Feedback made me realise i must Engage my Personal
problem and fear over it head on , with no mercy.
It is also the Start off a New year ... so lets make 2013 the year i got rid of a problem that i have always viewed as a curse.
Some people who might have read a few posts from me , know where this is going
Oke , so here we go , wish me luck.
i dont really know where to start so i will just jump in , I never had a relationship in my life , never had sex and my first kiss i had when i was 18
, now the whole sex thing doesnt bother that much , cause how can you miss something you never had , and it doesnt make me less off a Man in my
oppinion , i do strive in area's i put effort in.
With friends and family i am a very Social Funny guy , who always is busy in keeping other people onto their saddle or entertain them.
But when there are Woman around who are new to me , or when im in a bar or club , i turn into a exact Copy of Raj from the big bang theory and
Ignoring any eye contact , i honestly never dared to walk up a woman for a chit chat , this has multiple reasons:
- For me seeking contact feels like i am violating Her personal space and She probably thinks : here is another dude that cant keep his hands off
- I just dont know what to talk about with a Girl.
- I have a very negative Mindset on how Woman see me , i have some friends who are players and who will cheat on their Girlfriend at any chance
possible yet seem to get all the woman , and with all modesty i am just as good looking as them.
I would never want to trade places with them how ever , Abusing woman is disgusting and i told them numerous times what they are doing is unacceptable
, i hardly call these guys anymore and if they call me i go into "what do you need now " modus.
But it indoctrinated a belief in me that woman only want 27 year old guys who are without jobs and still living with mom and have no ethics or Moral
Code , instead of a hardworking self providing Man.
In 2012 my house finally was build after 1.5 year delay , After living with my Mom and Dad for years i finally had my own place, at the start it al
seemed nice and before i moved there i always said i would have no problem with being alone , but after some time it all changed and i realised being
lonely is very unhealthy for me , i also need presence.
The Reason i started this is too find out if there are people who suffer same problem and/or Conquered it.
Any other type of feedback is very welcome.
edit on 14-1-2013 by TheGreazel because: (no reason given)