I found your OP deeply disturbing on many levels..

Your responses are robotic and devoid of humanity.. Your justifications seem scripted like from an online medical journal or wiki page..

You sound souless :-(

And have passed that trait to your son..

None of the advice on here will reach into you I suspect.. As you have more barriers in your mind than fort knox and the lack of emotivity is inhuman..

You need an emotional awakening.. Your spirit and creativity need to be worked like a muscle.. Which if you dont use it you lose it...

You say its no problem in your justifications.. But it IS a problem because it is very deeply affecting those around you.. But as I suspect.. You wont even register that! Because you are too entrenched by fear of intimacy..

I feel very sorry for and disturbed by you... Please keep your son away from call of duty.. And for all of those in your circles sake.. Get some help...

torqpoc:

...but you're outside the "norm"...

Like I said, you are imposing your view (of what is 'norm') on me. Your response has me thinking that you have utterly missed the meaning of my post entirely. I see no merit in discussing anything further with you.

Your a bit of a lost cause, no offense but you've obviously already made you mind up so kinda wondering what you hoped to get out of this thread.

You might have a label to make your self feel better about your life but what about your sons life? Have you been giving him "one arm cuddles" all his life? Have you been unintentionally projecting your fears and phobias about relationships onto him? Have you even spoken to him to ask why he feels like he does, like find out his thought process on these things?

If I were you I'd have a chat with him and see if, for you, he would and go talk to someone about his feelings... to see if it can improve his mood and well-being!?

Also why can't your boyfriend talk about how your son it perceived by those around him? What's the issue, are you scared to address the problem? Fear your parenting skills being questioned? Don't want to admit your son isn't normal because that would mean your not exactly normal either, as you the teacher?

He's only 18, try and help him now before it gets any worse and 30 years down the line he's starting topics on the internet asking how you hug someone properly and attempting to learn how to cuddle from movies and then masturbating over "hot" girls in computer games???!!!

Doc

Originally posted by sarra1833

Originally posted by obnoxiouschick
usually previous abuse or issues about sex hinder gratification

If it were that easy. It doesn't apply to me.

Asexuality and the spectrum within are legitimate orientations. We can not 'fix' being asexual just as one can not 'fix' being homo or bi or hetero sexual.

I should start a new topic about Asexuality and the Spectrum. We may be rare, but we DO exist and we just are not sexual people. I think people need to become aware of this sexual orientation. :/

As an Ace myself (the kind who dates not nor any of the rest), I think that would be an interesting thread. Perhapes it would help people realize that just because someone falls out of the gender and sexual orientation realm does not necessarily mean they have been traumatized in some way or suffer from a lack of self-esteem.

Im quite sure there have been studies performed somewhere on this. The only way a person should not have the desire to have sex is through an imbalance of hormones, deep emotional/psychological problems, or a combination of the two. The human body is amazing and is put together in such a way so that we all desire sex when functioning normally. In my personal experience, the only people I have met who did not desire sex have been either "Holy people"(people dedicated and devoted entirely to God, or who they believe is God), or people who had emotional and other psychological problems.

I know you want to feel better for yourself and tell yourself there "is no real reason" why you are the way you are. There is a reason, and no it's not normal. Normal not meaning that everyone should be exactly the same, but from an objective and somewhat scientific perspective, all of our bodies should function and have attractions in pretty much the same way.

Originally posted by Arles Morningside

Originally posted by sarra1833

Originally posted by obnoxiouschick
usually previous abuse or issues about sex hinder gratification

If it were that easy. It doesn't apply to me.

Asexuality and the spectrum within are legitimate orientations. We can not 'fix' being asexual just as one can not 'fix' being homo or bi or hetero sexual.

I should start a new topic about Asexuality and the Spectrum. We may be rare, but we DO exist and we just are not sexual people. I think people need to become aware of this sexual orientation. :/

As an Ace myself (the kind who dates not nor any of the rest), I think that would be an interesting thread. Perhapes it would help people realize that just because someone falls out of the gender and sexual orientation realm does not necessarily mean they have been traumatized in some way or suffer from a lack of self-esteem.

edit on 15-1-2013 by Arles Morningside because: (no reason given)

Even if you hate the whole world and are hated by it, it should still be natural instinct to know how to love and be loved, and make that deep, personal connection with someone one-on-one. Unfortunately, for some people such as the OP, intimacy -- be it physical or emotional -- is as foreign to them as a distant planet. Their partners will drive themselves mad trying to love someone who just doesn't know how to receive that love or return it.

For someone that has serious intimacy issues. you sure need allot of attention.

asexual?...fine. I have no problem with that.

attention(clearly by the numbers of response
posts) seeker on top on that?

these are conspiracy forums, not a place to wave around
your psychiatric problems.

You need some serious therapy.

Personally, I find people like you frustrating, annoying, and not worth the time, or rather 'My time'. Of course were I to give you any time once I discovered your perverse lifestyle, it would then be my stupidity.
Girl, your not 'right' nor is any one right that believes as you do. It is dysfunctional.
I won't candy coat it, beyond being just an acquaintance or a coworker, there is no value to having any sort of debasing relationship with you. It's vampiristic any way you address it.
You may argue that your condition exists, but I would argue that it is simple a 'named ailment' a title, which doesn't necessarily give any value or make it healthy. There are a host of behaviors people exhibit, but it scarcely makes them healthy or wholesome..
Continue in your behavior and you will be lonesome and one day die old and alone.

To clarify, this is not an attack, it is the recognition of abnormal behavior. So All I can say is ....Good Day......
And run like hell.........