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Originally posted by sarra1833
reply to post by boymonkey74
Dogged meaning he said my son is a creepy freak etc. That the entire town talks smack about him and hates him and my bf "can't stand that that is my girlfriends son."
My son is a loner and is very scared of people, can't stand kids his age or kids period. He's more like a 50 year old stuck in a just turned 18 yo's body really.
Originally posted by schuyler
Originally posted by sarra1833
reply to post by boymonkey74
Dogged meaning he said my son is a creepy freak etc. That the entire town talks smack about him and hates him and my bf "can't stand that that is my girlfriends son."
My son is a loner and is very scared of people, can't stand kids his age or kids period. He's more like a 50 year old stuck in a just turned 18 yo's body really.
An amazing amount of material in those two pithy sentences. Of course your son is scared and a loner. He's not getting socialization skills from you, and it sounds like he is not getting either the emotional or physical support he needs to grow into a productive and happy young man. Since he is 18 it's probably too late, but at least he is legally an adult and you no longer are legally in charge.
And your "boyfriend" (I use the term reluctantly) is not helping matters. He obviously wants more from the relationship than you are willing to give, and he's whining about it. If I could say one sentence to him, it would be, "Run, Forrest, run as fast as you can away from there because you are wasting your time even being in this sexless, emotionless "relationship." This is something he should have learned by age 57. I doubt it's something he hasn't seen befroe. He doesn't have many years left and you don't have an ounce of sympathy for him. He needs to get out. I don't know what you are getting out of it, but I don't see you putting anything into it.
Instead every week or so you let it all out on ATS about your latest drama. Whether it's your latest move, gettng a job (Yay!) realizing it's not that good a job (Boo!) or your latest medical issues--you criticize HIM when you tell us all about it? You live your emotional life here in a serial Soap Opera you present in segments. And if anyone criticizes your Issue Of The Week, you lash out at them on how wrong they are.
So 1) Make a book out of your story. 2) Get counseling. 3) Get counseling for your son. 4) Dump the so-called "boyfriend." He'll be much happier for it. 5) Get off ATS. You're addicted. You need a real liofe and this ain't it.
Originally posted by rimjaja
This post makes me sad.
Love and companionship and belonging is an important part of the human experience. If you have no libido, you most likely have a hormonal imbalance of some type. Don't give up!
Schizophrenia
Definition
Schizophrenia is a psychotic disorder (or a group of disorders) marked by severely impaired thinking, emotions, and behaviors. Schizophrenic patients are typically unable to filter sensory stimuli and may have enhanced perceptions of sounds, colors, and other features of their environment. Most schizophrenics, if untreated, gradually withdraw from interactions with other people, and lose their ability to take care of personal needs and grooming.
Disorganized
Disorganized schizophrenia (formerly called hebephrenic schizophrenia) is marked by disorganized speech, thinking, and behavior on the patient's part, coupled with flat or inappropriate emotional responses to a situation (affect). The patient may act silly or withdraw socially to an extreme extent. Most patients in this category have weak personality structures prior to their initial acute psychotic episode.
I don't claim to be a psychic, seer, shaman, or anything else of the sort.
Originally posted by wildtimes
......have you considered that your current conundrum is possibly the result of a 'past life' trauma?
Originally posted by ezekielken
reply to post by schuyler
The Dark emperor smacks down some truth. Sometimes it hurts, let me tell you.
Self discovery and eventual acceptance with a pro could be such a positive step in her life imo.
Originally posted by MamaJ
reply to post by sarra1833
You have not had sex in 11 years? Did I read that correctly?
Originally posted by Thurisaz
OMG I have just read some of the replies...
sheesh
not everyone wants sex... it doesnt mean there is anything wrong. I would rather go out and have a rump steak with mushroom sauce.
Sex is over rated and boring. how many people have sexual relationships that end up fizzing out in a short time? heaps of people..why? cos that is the only thing they had going on. They are not friends or have shared interests.