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Originally posted by ErgoTheConclusion
If you always say no to offers/situations given to you... you prevent yourself from being forced to do things you don't want to do. This does not imply however that you are prevented from self initiating an action. So while you may never be able to say yes to that attractive person that propositions you... you wouldn't be prevented from propositioning them yourself. It means you won't be *forced* to do something you are afraid to do, but you won't be prevented from mustering the courage to still do it.
I see nothing in the OP that suggests you can't still ask for food or a hug or going for a walk when taking the "default no" option.edit on 9-1-2013 by ErgoTheConclusion because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by frazzle
reply to post by arpgme
I would answer yes because it wouldn't stop me from saying, "yes I agree that this is your opinion about what I should do, but I won't do it" ~ or words to that effect.
Originally posted by frazzle
BTW, there is no such thing as forever.
Originally posted by arpgme
If you had to choose between saying "yes" to what someone/life asks of you and saying "no" to whatever someone/life asks of you for the rest of your life, which would you choose?
Think of the positive and negative.
If you keep saying "no" - disagreeing to everything, you would not be able to have new experiences it seems, you would just be saying no to all of your friends, family, and new opportunities that enters your life. You would also probably get into a lot of conflict/argument since you would always be disagreeing with what everyone had to say, and probably a complainer. You would have to be apathetic not caring about suffering people saying "no" on the request to help them. The positive thing is that you can at least feel unique and never have to worry about being controlled.
Now, if you had to keep saying "yes" - agreeing to everything. You will sometimes be forced to do things that you would not like to do. Would would also not be able to reveal to much of yourself to anyone in order to avoid conflict. You would have to sometimes be "fake" , "pretend", just to keep the harmony among you and others. The positive side to this is that your roles in life would quickly be changing, you would be a new "person" all the time and life will be fun and dynamic. You will also be able to be compassionate helping people who are suffering. You will also have many new experiences, but you may feel like you are being "controlled" at times.
Which would you rather prefer if you were forced to choose and why?edit on 9-1-2013 by arpgme because: (no reason given)