While I applaud the sentiment of being a proactive and constantly interested parent, I think this may perhaps be a bit too broad. I do believe it is a
factor in some cases. Negligent, uninterested, (or abusive) parents do seem to play a role in the development of violent, angry children. But I don't
think that alone
is the primary causative factor in the development of children and teens who commit acts of great violence. Or, if it ever is,
that it is always
I suspect that it is a combination of numerous - perhaps as yet unquantified - factors, some more strongly influential than others in each individual
case. I think there is a natural and urgent impetus felt by parents (and adults in general) in response to such tragedies to quickly pinpoint a cause,
and with it, a means of changing the reality so as to prevent it from happening again. For some people this will be guns, for some it will be mental
illness, for others it will be poor parenting, for others it will be government interference in parental rights, and we could probably devise a list
many pages long if we all put our heads together.
The real question, I believe, should be: what (and where) is the shadowy nexus between
these factors that leads one to commit acts of great
violence? Guns, mental illness, negligent parenting, public schools, and other factors are fairly homogeneously distributed throughout society. And
yet these incidents - while horrific, and arguably more visible or frequent than in the past (I say or visible because some good evidence has been
offered in this thread to support the argument that such incidents are not as new as many perceive them to be) - are relatively
considering how ubiquitous the assumed ingredients for their occurrence are.
What is the underlying factor, or combination of factors, that leads to these events? That is the question we must answer before we can do anything
about it in my opinion. And then we must also ask: how do we go about addressing whatever that is without violating people's rights and privacy, or at
least, how do we balance people's rights and privacy against the threat? Any substantive action that has impact and changes things would likely bring
about a sea change in one or both.
Pinpointing one prospective cause and affirming the need to change it is commendable in my opinion, but that's easier to do than it is to really work
to quantify all of the ingredients, and then take action that could affect all of us in ways not necessarily pleasant in order to counter them. And
that's something we can't necessarily just do on an individual basis or as laypeople either, which is perhaps the most frustrating and saddening
element of the issue.
edit on 1/8/2013 by AceWombat04 because: Typo