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Originally posted by intrptr
reply to post by gwynnhwyfar
Thanks for telling that story.
You WANT to be sympathetic and kind, but these people take advantage and take and take and never give, and if you aren't obedient, they get angry with you and try to punish you. When you find yourself constantly trying to figure out how you wound up as the one in the wrong, and the person is blaming you for not "understanding" their difficult circumstances, while you think you are bending over backwards for them...
I saw something in your recount I wanted to point out and maybe help you to understand one aspect. Practicing drug addicts aren't in charge of their lives. The drugs or the addiction to them are. Its like the drugs are in the drivers seat and the addict is along for the ride. Especially when it comes to the King of drugs... Heroin. No one can say no to the King. It controls every aspect of an addicted person, every waking moment is dedicated to obtaining the next fix. Without it, painful symptoms of withdrawal begin which are to to be avoided at all costs. So they steal and lie and promise to change, but really they have no choice as long as they are addicted.
It may appear they are psychopaths but really inside they are as upset about it as the people they victimize. "Nothing personal, just give me the friggin' money. You don't understand." That kind of thing. Once the person consciously chooses to get treatment then they can begin the long road to recovery and the real person that was in there before they become a drug addict will return. Sometimes addicts struggle a long time, vacillating back and forth between abstinence and relapse before they are successful (or die trying). That is norlmal too.
Not trying to excuse their behavior, just giving it some perspective from an addicts perspective.
Originally posted by LafingWithTears
reply to post by NorEaster
Geez, did I ever say how much I like you noreaster....(I don't want to be on your bad side)
I would hope that the difference between you & him would be that you have some empathy despite your capacity for malevolence and the ability to censor your behavior based on that empathy, in a nutshell this seems to be the difference between socios/psychos & the rest of us.
I say let him twist & do your worst, this is not an opinion where I am encouraging you to indulge any desire for revenge you may have but rather if he is a true psycho all he will do is spread misery to any that he comes in contact with and so you would be doing any of his future victims, actually the whole world, a service.