posted on Oct, 26 2004 @ 12:44 PM
Personally I think you are showing a very mature attidude. So many people just rush into having kids without considering the consequences. Some
people think that kids will bring a couple closer together - which is rarely true. Some see having kids through rose-tinted spectacles - like how they
used to play 'mommies' with their Barbie dolls - and realise too late that having real children is hard work. From how I read your post, it looks
as if your girl becomes 'broody' (as KayEm once explained to me) whenever she sees a pic of a baby or reads anything about babies. To me this is
just like wanting a new dress or car because of seeing an ad for them.
Unless both of you want the responsibilities of bringing children into the world, then I would advise you not to do so. These are little children you
are talking about, not puppies or kittens. Since you don't want children, it would be inadvisable for you to agree to it just to placate your girl.
Maybe you should talk with her, tell her your feelings rather than just 'I don't want kids'. Explain why
you don't want them - until
recently I was adamant that I would never want children - when I met KayEm I changed my mind but it is probably to late now for me because of the
situation at home. Still, it was my choice.
Later on you may want children of your own and providing that both
of you want that, then theres absolutely no problem in it. Its when one of
the couple doesn't want kids that the problems start.
Alternatively you could show her a piccy of my avatar
... That will either
make her even more determined to have a baby, or insist that you have a vasectomy immediately.