posted on Dec, 31 2012 @ 09:36 PM
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DaXin’s ALCOHOL COMMENTARY 31 DEC 2012
1. I worked at an alcohol treatment center owned and ran by the retired head of the Long Beach Navy center that treated Betty Ford as one of my
internship field placements.
2. The format was group process pairing a PhD candidate and an AA counselor.
2.1 Almost all the clients were court ordered into the program.
3. One session, a new fellow . . . introduced himself. It turned out he'd had about 8 drunk driving ARRESTS. I think he was now court ordered into
our program on yet ANOTHER DUI. One of those, he'd nearly killed a mother and children who were hospitalized with multiple injuries. Another, he
almost killed himself.
THE FIRST WORDS OUT OF HIS MOUTH WERE:
I don't need to be here. I don't have an alcohol problem.
4. Perhaps you can appreciate that after 30+ years of counseling folks who have had an alcohol problem or were related to someone who did . . . I
don't relate to alcohol consumption as a hilariously funny activity.
5. Pastor Henry Wright asserts, correctly, I think, that ALL addictions are a DESPERATE SEARCH FOR
qualities and quantities of DADDY'S LOVE that were not present the first 6-8 years of life.
I believe he's totally correct.
6. I'm often soundly criticized for the following conviction--however, it is a strong one that has only been reinforced with the decades.
7. It has been my observation, that
IF someone drinks 3 or more alcoholic beverages within 24 hours--particularly regularly at all--they already have or will have before too terribly
long--a serious problem with alcohol abuse.
8. A standard professional truism is that if someone cannot go 6 months without a single alcoholic drink AND NOT PINE AWAY FOR IT, then they likely
have an alcohol problem.
9. Father Martin used to do the "Chalk Talks" on alcoholism. He mentioned a fellow who binge drank one weekend and lost his driver's license. He
binge drank another weekend and nearly lost his life. He binge drank a 3rd weekend and lost his freedom. He concluded, correctly, in prison, that he
was an alcoholic after 3 drinking sessions.
10. The only difference between alcohol and ether used for surgery is one water molecule. They take people with ether down to just above death and
hold them there for the operations. That's why their insurance premiums are so high.
11. It used to be that death by drinking was rare because folks became so drunk they passed out without sufficient amounts to kill themselves. Given a
lot of more potent drinks and a lot of absurdly stupid group macho feats . . . it's a fairly common event in our era.
12. I'm not a tee-totaler. I'll probably have 1-3 glasses of low alcohol wine a YEAR. I don't like the taste of more potent stuff. Around 3-6% is
13. One of my college English assignments was to go into a bar, a bus station or a train station and just listen to the conversations and take notes.
Having never sat in a bar, that I could recall, I chose a bar. A couple of friends joined me. Of course we had to be non-alcoholic drinkers for the
assignment. The conversations were some of the most inane, foolish, seriously pathetic, sad, dreary of any I'd ever heard. And NO ONE was truly
listening to anyone else in any of the conversations.
14. It has always flabbergasted me how mostly anesthetizing one's brain and fine motor coordination was successfully sold to the population as
"elite," " smart," "clever," "cool," "sophisticated," "wonderful FUN," a "GOOD TIME," . . .
14.1 I mean, if someone came up to you and said . . . Every Friday night, I'm going to take you out to eat salty, artery troubling food and inject
you with a substance that will immediately anesthetized your JUDGMENT CENTER in your brain--the center that decides when you've done something too
much or too little; gotten too close or too far from a moving vehicle; said something cruel and stupid; etc. And, the substance will give you a high
risk for a life-long addiction that will destroy your family relationships; your work reputation and all your dreams. The substance may well cause
auto accidents and cause you to lose your license. And, it will probably shorten your life 10-25 years or more. And, it will cost you a lot of money
on a shrinking income.
WOULD YOU BE THRILLED TO SIGN RIGHT UP FOR A REGULAR DOSE? Would you consider someone who did the sharpest knife in the drawer?
15. How is it fun to do high risk things; insult those closest to you; act utterly foolish to down-right cluelessly stupid . . . to wake up the next
morning with a lot of pain and revulsion . . . NOT REALLY REMEMBER MUCH after the first 3-6 drinks and then brag lying about what a wonderful time you
16. Family time drawing closer to those you love or with a group you love--with your entire brain functioning normally has no bad aftertaste. Spending
the time showing folks you love how much they mean to you, has no bad after taste.
Anyway . . . /rant
(C) 2012 DaXin
The goal of this post is not to hinder authentic lastingly constructive true FUN.
However, IF one potential drunken abuse of one spouse or one child is decreased by this post, then it is well worth whatever assaults and cat calls it
Cheers--with maybe sparkling cider.
A prudent person foresees danger and takes precautions.
The simpleton goes blindly on and suffers the consequences. NLT