Originally posted by dave_welch
I'm not trying to have a pity party, or anything like that. I just need some advice.
When I meet a woman I like, I'm always polite, I open doors, pull out seats, bring flowers. But it always ends up with her saying "I only like you
as a friend.". What is with that? For that matter, who leads someone on like that? I don't get it. I'm only doing what I was raised to do, to be a
gentleman. What gives? I'm not the best looking or most successful guy, but according to most people that doesn't matter. So, what's the problem?
So I don't always try to get in her pants on the first date, now that's unacceptable? Any advice?
Dating should be viewed as an exercise...exercising should never stop with your found love!
Women lovvve attention...meant, in the way that you listen to them, remember what they have said, comment on it...so do you...so if a date is self
absorbed to the point of talking over you about herself (or if you do this)...it is apparent there is a problem, and you would not hesitate to
relegate them to 'friend zone'.
Women lovvve confidence...not ego driven, macho, look-at-me, I'm speshal (and who were you again) crap...confidence in opinion, confidence in
movement, confidence in thought, confidence in interaction...although there is a place for goofiness...
Women lovvve that you notice details...before a date, notice her...mmm...preferences...take a mental note of the small things...and do not forget
Don't be a lackey...find a comfortable middle ground...women are capable beings that can and should do some things for themselves in equal
Don't be pushy...a week between phone calls/texts can seem like a long time...in reality, it ain't...nothing wrong with a little 'hey, how you
going, was just thinking about you'...if you get what seems like a brush off too many times, she's either shy, busy or uninterested...nip this in
the bud by directly asking if this is so (by phoning or texting)...you may have found a new 'buddy' to go out with (and her friends!!!)...don't be
scared to have friends!
Paying, or not paying...if you can only afford your own meal/outing...make this clear!...it definitely won't always be this way if you get to
seriously date her...all the same, little gifts (not necessarily bought, i.e. a small flower) are always appreciated...it shows you are thinking of
her and her alone...
All strength to your mission...be patient, be self-assured, be wary, be goofy...