reply to post by dave_welch
Sounds to me like you're getting friend zoned. Acting like a "nice guy" will help make this happen.
I'm not advocating you act like a jerk -- but make your intentions known right from the begining. If you act like a "friend" she will file you away as
a "friend" -- and sometimes even use you for free food/rides/attention.
women will know within 30 seconds if she will ever sleep with you. Her subconcious mind makes that determination immediatley upon meeting
you. If you don't get the vibe, move on and don't waste your money/time.
Women are also very insecure and require constant attention. One trick that I've seen work is to insult her, but make it sound like a compliment.
Instead of telling her she looks nice -- tell her that you don't get how guys like big boobs. Tell her, "All these models with these perfect
bodies...That's so unrealistic! I'm more into a someone like you, you're like the girl next door."
That'll drive her nuts. Another mistake I see guys do is pay to much attention to a woman. As I said, women are insecure and crave attention. If you
initially act interested and then then act like you don't care -- it'll make her crazy wondering what is wrong with her/going on. You may just start
getting HER to call YOU!
It sounds horrible, but guys that always have dates and whatnot naturally gravitate to the women with low self-esteem. These women are very easy to
pick up. Many of them are actually really attractive and have a good personality! For whatever reason (maybe Daddy issues?) they lack any confidence
or self esteem. I have some guy friends that can sniff them out like a hound and go after them. It's amazing to see.
Learn to read body language -- you can learn a lot from how someone is sitting/angled at you. WARNING: Don't read into body language to much though,
just use it as another piece of evidence.
Once you're in the "friend zone", it's almost impossible to get out. I can be done, but it's really, really rare. Women have the advantage in that if
they want to get laid, they can just come on/seduce pretty much any guy they want. They have the upper hand. Do not let them have this power over you!
Be confident in yourself and act like, "I don't NEED to be with you, I only sort of want to" (in a playful, upbeat, friendly way). This will confuse
the crap out of them and make you seem interesting.
Oh, and one last thing...DONT OVERTHINK SITUATIONS INVOLVING WOMEN. You'll paralyze yourself and fail to jump when you should. Just go with the
edit on 31-12-2012 by MystikMushroom because: (no reason given)