posted on Dec, 29 2012 @ 03:50 PM
I don't know anyone who isn't guilty of the following: When we accuse our parents of doing such n' such when they shouldn't have, or that they
didn't do such n' such when they should have, what we are saying is that our parents should have been perfect, but weren't. This simply isn't
Each parent is a human being with tons and tons of baggage left over from their own childhood. And of course, they got this baggage from their
parents, who got it from their parents, who got it from their parents... So, when our parents fail it's not because they wanted to; it's that they
didn't know how NOT to fail.
When I say that I forgave my mother for not being able to love me, it's not quite what I meant. I meant that I came to "Understand' why she was the
way she was. There is no profit in forgiveness without understanding. I needed to understand that how my mother treated me wasn't my fault, just as
it isn't your fault how your parents treat you.
Understand your parents, and try to live your life without the baggage they didn't mean to give you.
May you find much love, hope, and happiness from this day forward.