Someone in control of their money/finances
. I don't mean this in a gold digger way.
I've been with more than a few men who have had some little vice that they liked to spend their money on, be it books, DVDs, video games, gadgets or
technology or even drugs...
And a large percent of those men also would spend money to such an extent on these things that they would find themselves short for rent, or food, or
payments for other things.
One thing I don't appreciate is having to use the money I'd been saving for a holiday, to bail out some guy I'd only been with for two months
because debtors were harassing him for money (more fool me, I know, but hey, he was my boyfriend and I wasn't going to let him flounder).
If you've got your s#*t together financially, you can save money but also know when it's ok to spend it, then that's all good in my book.
Someone who is independent but knows when to be around.
I am a pretty independent gal, and I like to sit and read quietly, or I might like to sit and play a video game for a couple of hours. If a guy has
his own interests that he would like to pursue while I am indisposed, that's awesome. Even better if he shares those same interests. If he wants to
sit and read while I read, cool. If he wants to sit and watch me play a video game, that's good too. If he wants to play a game with me... he better
know what he's doing
Someone who reads.
In my opinion, there is nothing more unattractive than someone who doesn't read. It's not cool if you think that reading is lame. I prefer a guy
with a bigger book collection than a bigger you-know-what.
Someone who takes care of them self.
I'm not saying I want someone who looks like Magic Mike. I'm not even saying I want someone who works out. I just want someone who is aware of
themselves and will take pride in their appearance. Someone who brushes their teeth twice a day, and brushes their hair once in a while.
That'll do me
Someone who has their own tastes but appreciates any differences.
To me, there is nothing more irritating than being with someone who is a carbon copy of me. I can't stand myself at the best of times, why would I
want to be with someone just like me?
It's cool if we don't have everything in common, I'm not going to bombard you with all the crap I like, I hope you won't do the same. However, I
would like someone to at least try, and I would be happy to try too.
No religion or overt politicalness.
I'm not religious. At all. In fact, I very much don't like religion in general. I'm actually more tolerant of politics than I am of religion. That
said, if you're an active member of a political party, that's a no-go for me too. I'm totally cool with having a political affiliation, a party
that you agree with and support. But I'd rather not know about it. Too many arguments in life, in the world over, are about religion, and politics.
They are the two things people disagree on most. So it's best to not delve to deeply on those matters.
Someone who doesn't waste time on social networking. I know it's a tall order in this day and age. Twitter is ok, because it's less personal, and
there seems to be no drama on there. But Facebook drama crap, I'm done with.