reply to post by EvanB
There is no doubt about it, the softening has removed the central identity of both sexes. Men have become something other than "men" and lost their
masculine identity only to find themselves in an unknown place between neither world. Just as women have lost theirs and no longer understand or know
what it is to be a "woman". This is also the proponent as to why most couples no longer are successful for the most part. Natural needs are
contradicted and replaced by what we are now taught to 'be' even though much of it is contrary to everything we are by nature.
Neither knows anymore what they are to one another or who is what. This is just my observation. Civilization has destroyed the family, men, women and
the dynamic of what a union is.
This doesn't excuse men from leaving the toilet seat down, or also being equally responsible for all responsibilities that women share as well. This
doesn't exempt men from being considerate of their 'woman love' in all things just as she should be towards him. Both should live to do so for one
another always. Both should live to uphold one another in all things and do everything to make life easier for one another because Love does that.
Love listens in sensitivity regardless how machismo or masculine the man is.
Love wants to hear and as the protector he should instinctively want to immediately be responsive as well as sensitive. There is no weakness in
expressing sensitivity because when you love both are vulnerable to each other. Both inside that love have chosen to submit and be 'vulnerable' to one
another. A woman needs to know she can trust her man and go to him with everything just as the man needs to feel the same towards his woman. Nothing
hidden or held back. Such transparency between each other does not remove any amount of masculinity or femininity from either but rather exposes both
in their true essence to each other.
We in our natural state both male and female, masculine and feminine should naturally adhere to live every day in that Love for our
partners........................to do and think and be in the center of that heart. It should be an equal measure of sacrifice because that is what
As a women I yearn to be shielded under that masculinity in my man. That is deeply how I as a woman can recognize my need, trust and love in him. Just
as I know the man as well yearns to be driven by that innate femininity inside a woman who needs and depends on him in that way even if she herself is
In this balance the man will still be the protector...................and the woman will be happy to shield herself beneath his wing.
What it comes down to is full on responsibility for one another and hard work without excuses.
There is no excuse for inconsideration or selfishness in an union with regards to the argument of masculinity and femininity and the natural balance
of such a partnership when we are true in our essence.
When we choose to be in a partnership than we have chosen to mold two lives into one, both being equally responsible for one another in thought, deed
and all things unspoken but lived day to day in the natural expression of being.
Both literally are each others balance and together are completion. That is not something to take lightly or for granted.
Truthfully most people nowadays only know how to be selfish and egocentric, having lost the ability to sacrifice in and for love. Judging by what I
see all around me people are consumed with themselves in a 'me, me, me and I, I and I' culture having lost the ability to even know what love is or
demands from us in a sacrifice that should come naturally and with a happy heart.
There is so much about Love that is born out of sacrifice and pain. The greatest gifts in life have to be born out of such lessons because that is how
we are refined in the fire. Just how a child must enter this world, born out of pain and suffering to embrace a new life that brings with it joy and
even more love. Such is Love all the way around. It makes us better, refines us and purges us from our imperfections. That is the purposeful design of
Often Love is born out of pain in ways that demand the greatest change from us for the betterment of our being fearlessly.
edit on 27-12-2012
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