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Originally posted by EvanB
reply to post by NewAgeMan
Mate.. I WAS really being sincere...
Originally posted by EvanB
reply to post by DoYouEvenLift
Im sorry.. Manhood did a number on you hey?.. But you appear to be very strong and eloquent and have come through..
This may sound disingenuous.. But its not.. I mean it.. And for what its worth.. Im sending some hugs your way...
Very sorry and ashamed that manhood let you down.. And this thread is about what is going wrong with us??
Why are we as a sex failing the very people we supposed to live and protect?
Originally posted by intrptr
Real men turn away from the "manly escalation" that usually results in a fight. The Hero is not the conqueror or the war monger that defeats the enemy. The Hero is the peace maker. I hardly expect that opinion to matter in a country that is at everlasting war and cage matches though.
53 seconds in...
Originally posted by sconner755
reply to post by nixie_nox
Society has shifted drastically to remove the polarity between men and women. Women are taught to be more like men, and men are ridiculed when they exhibit masculine traits.
The lack of polarity in relationships is what kills attraction, and kills the relationship. The way to be a great father isn't to bake and play with dolls. The way to be a great father is to be willing to die to protect the kids' mother.
To be so committed to taking care of your family that nothing else matters.
When a kids' mom feels safe, the kids will feel safe.
The way to be a great father is to stand and face the storms of feminine energy and be rock solid, still standing after the storm passes. To take every test your women throws at you and say, "is that all you've got? Give me more."
Unfortunately, in today's world you see so many "sensitive" men who are insecure,
I was with a friend the the other day who flat out broke up with her boyfriend on the phone because he was being all wussy boy about why she was out having a drink with me at 8 pm.
I've never seen a woman attracted to an insecure, feminine man.
Right, which is why most women wish straight men acted like their gay friends.
Of course that's just my experience. I'm sure masculine leaning women might be attracted to feminine me
Yea didn't see that one coming. Because not only do you want to determine who men should be, you want to determine who women should be, and your only defense for your insecurity is to flame women who act like men and vice versa. Let me guess, you think men should be able to have mistresses while women have to remain pure and virginal.
This is only one view. You make some of the same points the OP, and some other posters made. How you define what a true man is, is bound to multiple factors such as the time, place, & sociocultural perception. You think every man should be an "alpha male"? You think that for the majority of human existence, true men weren't those who had a lust for battle, domination, etc? Not every man needs to be what you think they should. People are defined by more than just that.
According to you "real men" are confident, caring, intelligent, & humorous. But insecure men are worthless. Is a genius inventor who's socially awkward not a real man, and worthless? Is an alpha male who was born in a vat of opulence a superior man, simply because he's socially adept? Truth is there is room in this world for the socially adept, and the intellectual recluse. They balance each-other out. Saying that society is going to ruins because we don't have enough alpha males is complete nonsense.
Originally posted by NewAgeMan
reply to post by EvanB
He did bear his "wound" at my request, and while your intention appeared to be good there seemed to be a small amount of salt thrown in..
Like I've been saying, these "predicaments" are at one both very sorrowful and grave, and yet have the potential for great humor if we would but let it.
You see, a Civilized man is someone who never hurts another person's feelings, unintentionally.
It was poor communication on your part to both taunt and console at the same time.
We need to communicate straight and take what we get back as the response where the meaning of communication is the response you get.
I just wish we'd all crack open so that our wounds of sorrow might be healed with the humorous knowledge, however grave it may at first seem, of perfect understanding and comprehension where the need to "get even" has already fallen away as an absurd reaction/response. In this manner, he too failed the test miserably.
It's a sad joke and the joke's on us.
Let's get it, and laugh together, before it's too late and all possibility for the humor in it, is lost. Can you imagine how horrible that would be?!
Men let down your shields, and let this sharp arrow of truth and knowledge penetrate right through to your heart, you will not "die", and you can TAKE IT, as men.
Here, watch this
There's no need to get angry, when we're really just exploring what it means to be true to one's self, whether as a man or a woman.
To be a man is to be without the NEED for machismo. !
"The fire of Satsang will not burn you, it will only burn what you are not."
edit on 29-12-2012 by NewAgeMan because: (no reason given)
To be a man is to be without the NEED for machismo.