posted on Dec, 29 2012 @ 06:17 AM
I can wish you well and spare a thought for a thought for the broken hearted and lonely.
Even if I wanted to influence yours n her fate just a little (not that I think I can,can't seem to influence my own at times.lol),I'm not keen on
wishing for her without hearing her side besides from what you've describe I doubt god,gandalf and the wizard of oz would change her mind,till she
Some women,strong willed women,my gf being one,you tend to find once their minds made up that's that until and unless their decision changes.Before
I'm accused of generalisation,that's women in my personal exp.
You push,the heels dig in.You try any change of tack that isn't honest and sincere,forget it.For just now put your life back together,get on with
your own life.Maybe she sees you do that she'll start to consider things,maybe not.Either way,you need to sort your own life.
A skint guy on his ma's couch isn't part of the solution.It's no good saying you changed your life for her,it's how you deal with things as they
stand right now that'll show who you are.
I would say though when you're with someone,a partner it's exactly that a partnership.At times everythings ok and it's great,sometimes you stumble
she picks you up.Other times she needs support !!!
Like when she finds out she's pregnant.This is whatever the situation btwn you is it's her body,her decision ultimately.You are free to express
you're opinion but as for you're right to I don't know that you have any as such,morally I'm speaking.
A termination isn't an easy decision,or procedure often so if she doesn't want to,that's that.
You've got a choice,support the course she's taken,even if you aren't together because now it's the baby that takes priority not your lovelife.
Or you can disagree about the abortion,as you seem to have done and you're suffering the consequences.
I'd hate to judge but you sound young,saying the pregnancies put her bad,hormones suggest you don't quite get it.
Right or wrong,she's decided to keep the baby.Once she'd made that decision her kids and the unborn are her priority that's it.She's not acting
bad cos her hormones are wild,she's focusing on what matters.
Instead of support you question her decision,you didnt rise to the situation like a man should in her mind.She may well envisage doubt and questioning
throughout the pregnancy from you.The easiest answer don't have you around.
I'm not having a go at you.She sounds like a strong willed,strong minded woman who knows what she thinks,whats she needs to get on with life however
hard that may be.She sounds quite selfless too.
You'll need to be as genuinely strong willed,minded,determined,have your priorities str8 now to gain her trust and respect again.
And against what seems logical to do that you need to leave her be,rebuild your life,get a job your own place and let her get on with it,let her see
your worth changing her mind over then leave her to come to you.
Sorry if I sound disheartening but the baby changes everything,thats what they do.You either stand up n if you can't maybe they're better off
Fact is,it's the babys well being that matters.Either you're part of the solution or not !!