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One of the key's to any decision is taking the time to see all the possibilities before you make them, accepting the results to those decisions and learning the lesson intended behind each. No decision is without merit. They all have a benefit. If the result is not the one you hoped for, the lesson is not lost.
Originally posted by Starwise
Lately I have been asking myself these same questions.... I keep thinking that if I would have done one or two things differently, my life could be so different and I wouldn't be in pain right now, but I will never know now will I?
Originally posted by Idonthaveabeard
I have alot of these lol, most of them are about wether I get sex or not
And most of the time I made the wrong decisions and still regret them.
Sometimes I imagine how cool it would be to wake up as an 18 year old again and all this has been a really vivid dream haha. Imagine if that actually happened lol, but I guess most people wish for this aswell.
Originally posted by silo13
The problem is as simple yet complex as that old Nike commercial 'Just Do It'...
Do I agree with you sure.
But to 'Just do It'...
Wow...
Originally posted by Iamschist
One of the key's to any decision is taking the time to see all the possibilities before you make them, accepting the results to those decisions and learning the lesson intended behind each. No decision is without merit. They all have a benefit. If the result is not the one you hoped for, the lesson is not lost.
Very true. For me personally, shoulda, woulda and coulda, are words I try to avoid. If I do the work as you have said above, then "oh well", if it does not turn out as I had hoped or worse, if it blows up in my face, which happens, We do the best we can with what we have, and we do not have enough information before we decide. In general I may be eviscerated, but I will follow my heart. Learning from mistakes is the best kind of learning, painful, but effective. Having regrets is a waste of time.edit on 24-12-2012 by Iamschist because: (no reason given)
Do not let your past control your future. Learn from it then move on. Adopt the "f#$k it" mentality and always move forward. You won't find the answers in the past. They simply aren't there.
Originally posted by littled16
reply to post by BrokenAngelWings33
I try my best not to dwell on decisions of the past, whether they turned out to be the right decision or the wrong one. Long ago I made the choice to accept that every decision I have made in my life- good or bad- has taught me things and helped to shape the person that I am. Even if it were possible I would not change a single thing, because I like me just the way I am!
Merry Christmas BAW33!
Originally posted by BrokenAngelWings33
reply to post by TheLieWeLive
I agree regret to a degree can be debilitating, however, disease is a strong word. I would regret not pointing that out to you. Focusing on failure is never good, but what can you take from the experience that allows you to feel better about what choices you did make. Sometimes it is necessary to regret your choices in order do that. Regretting all the choices in your life is not healthy for anyone and it often leads to other decisions that end with regret or finality for this world and regret for the next. The lessons we need to learn do not come without regret, it is how you handle it that makes the difference.
Do not let your past control your future. Learn from it then move on. Adopt the "f#$k it" mentality and always move forward. You won't find the answers in the past. They simply aren't there.
You are right about not letting your past control you, but I feel you are mistaken to think that the answers are not. Experience is the teacher of the future. Without your past you would not have knowledge to draw from.
The "f" it mentality is not healthy either. It allows you to make decisions without thinking of the consequences.edit on 12/24/2012 by BrokenAngelWings33 because: (no reason given)
“Experience can be a really positive thing,” Garrett said. “It doesn’t always have to be a positive thing. Sometimes it can be a bad experience when you didn’t get the job done and hopefully you can learn from what happened, what you did or didn’t do in that situation and go forward. We have a lot of different football players than we had over the last four or five years. We know that. Every year is a new team but there have been some guys who were in those games as players and coaches and hopefully we can benefit from those experiences.”
Originally posted by zedVSzardoz
reply to post by BrokenAngelWings33
Well I don't appreciate judgements passed by people I have no measure of character from. You may say I need to be more humble but who are you and why is your advice applicable to my life?
If you knew me you wouldn't say that, but basing all you know of me from the couple things I say on ATS is not enough to pass judgements of any type let alone give advice.
Thanks but no thanks. Regret is a mind killer and I regret nothing.
That "EYE" thing you have going is very disconcerting and I'm sure you have it for just that purpose. I am glad you are comfortable in your life at the moment. What ever choices you did make to lead this point most definitely contributed to who you are, as do the ones you have yet to make. Hopefully, you have managed to realize that your future you has some humbling to do. Things change in the blink of an "EYE" and it is best to be prepared rather than caught off guard.
edit on 26-12-2012 by zedVSzardoz because: (no reason given)