reply to post by imagineering
You know what, I have been in your position, married, and cheated on.
Despite still having a love and affection towards the man, I ended it, because he had lost respect for me, couldn't entirely see a future for us, and
A month later he began to regret what he had done, but my resolve held.
Sadly he died a couple of years later, and although I still have times where I wish things had worked out differently, I also know the relationship
would never have been the same.
We didn't have kids together, which is a blessing, in fact the act of not continuing in the relationship and moving on is what has brought me two
I have two pieces of advice for you...
1) Get out, move on, hard to do yes, but in time, you'll wonder why you didn't do it sooner. Men in particular I feel have a fear of change when it
comes to relationships, and tend to be a little more hesitant to make the leap, I don't know why, pride perhaps, fear of being perceived to have
failed, but in general this appears to be what experience has taught me.
there is no shame in breaking out of a relationship which does not leave one or both individuals feeling fulfilled. In the long term it only serves to
prolong the pain, and waste what opportunities may lay ahead to lead to a more fulfilled life.
2) Please try to stop blaming the wrong person.
When my Husband did what he did, despite the woman being a bit of a jezzabelle, I hold no malice, or grudge against her for her part.
It is the responsibility of the individual in the relationship to have the strength to stay true, not the head turner.
It is your partner who has let you down, has made the choice to stray, I know its hard, thee is a part of you that loves her, but she is the problem,
not the other man, in fact he has done you a favor by bringing to light her weakness.
If reading this makes a lot of sense to you, then perhaps for you it is time to break out and move on.
If reading this has you scrambling to her defence, then stay, tough it out, and make it work.
If you go for the second option, and it continues not to work, the first option becomes the only door open to you.
Good luck my friend, I hope you, and your other half find peace.