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I am struggling to get back to the place where her and I used to be, where we had clean consciences as a faithful married couple. I was not the one who failed, she failed me. When I first heard of this I could physically feel the change that occurred
some here have translated me falsely but that is ok too. I loved with a true love and enduring in that is important, I am a man of faith for certain and I know God "hates a divorcing" and to be honest maybe working to much made her resent me, but I did it with pure motives
Originally posted by jiggerj
So, why is sex with another person an act of your spouse taking their love away from you? Well, it isn't (unless it's for revenge, but that means the love is already gone from that relationship). When a spouse cheats, the other spouse is usually the last thing on their mind. It has nothing to do with love, and probably has a lot to do with boredom and the need to feel alive. Don't we all need that from time to time?
Some answers, but only my opinion
Don't let your relationship get stuck in a rut. Single or married, people need excitement and a lust for SOMETHING. Some people devote their lives to science (higher learning), some to making lots of money. Some fill their lives with helping the needy. Point is, people need more than just being a husband or a wife. Whether these activities are done separate or together, if it's truly rewarding then people won't be so quick to jump into bed with others.
You do not own your spouse. You cannot control their thoughts. Allow your spouse to be whatever they want to be in life. When they succeed, cheer for them. When they fail, be there to comfort them.