posted on Dec, 23 2012 @ 05:42 PM
reply to post by Jepic
I'm not sure how i would define what I believe gender role's should be in a wider society sense......I will have to think about that.
I had two very loving parent's growing up ( still do) My Dad always made whatever sacrifices were necessary for the well being of his family.He felt
it was his responsibility to provide for us...at one point in time that meant that he skipped meals to provide enough food for my mum and me and my
sister. Whatever problem's we faced as a family my mum and dad faced them together, but he always took on ultimate responsibility for ensuring the
best for us all.
Sometimes that meant that if my mum and dad couldn't agree on an issue or course of action, after lengthy talks and debate if still no agreement
could be made HE made the final decision. He didn't take this lightly and was always aware of the great responsibility that came with that.....it
wasn't a right, but a responsibility and if he made the wrong call the responsibility for that was also his.
He adored my mum and she adored him in return....he bought her gift's when he could, always made sure to let her know how much he appreciated her.
My mum stayed home and looked after me and my sister till we were both in school. She had nothing but respect for my dad and did everything she could
to make him happy and feel proud of his family. She took care of us and my dad and made it easier for my dad to be able to do the thing's he needed
to do to provide for us.
And yes while my dad was out working a 12 hour shift she cooked, cleaned house and took care of the day to day running.
When my dad wasn't working we all came together as a family and did everything together.
They worked together in this way to ensure that me and my sister had a good life and were happy and as a result that they could both be proud of their
love for each other and the family they raised. And although that kind of lifestyle would probably come under criticism today it had the desired
effect......I had the most wonderful childhood and consider myself well adjusted and grounded....and after 43 year's of marriage they still dote on
Now call me old fashioned....which lot's do...but that would be my blueprint for gender role's within a family at least....but maybe my mum and dad
set such a good example that I am completely biased!