posted on Dec, 18 2012 @ 03:27 AM
Free will is only free will when you strip back every single cultural influence and either reject them as arbitrary, and therefore not
'unquestionably right' (or choose to accept them for an easier life in the culture you live in). Just dont follow blindly.
I grew up in a typical neanderthalesque family with a builder (construction worker) father. The type that protects his food and his wife from other
mens eyes. He has his ways and thats that. No foreign food, and monogamy and the fairytale true love was the 'right way'.
Naturally for years I believed this was how you lived. I hated feeling jealous and possessive of my various girlfirends over the years, especially
because I knew, as a bit of a jack-the-lad, that I was perfectly capable of sticking it to many other women, without losing any 'love' for my
girlfriend. But I didnt question this, its a 'mans world. and boys play, while women stay at home, right?
Eventually I decided that if I can enjoy the physical pleasure of sex with other girls, whilst still feeling love for my partner, then why shouldnt
she? If I really had true love for her, why did this sicken me to think of her orgasmic with another? I cook her lovely meals every night, I am a good
cook, but when I take her to a Michelin starred restauarnt and Frenchy Pierre white cooks her state of the art cuisine - do I leave all jealous asking
"was his pomme frites better than mine?". These are pleasures of the flesh - and what I want love for, between my partner and all my friends, is
that spiritual connection. Like, we are both on the rollercoaster together - how was your ride today darling?
So I started peeling back all that I thought 'right'
Turns out EVERYTHING we do is arbitrary, from the side of the road you drive on, to the food you eat, to the sexual/family/marriage model of your
society. They way you do somthing is simply a product of your environment. None of it is actually 'right' or 'wrong'.
No, I hear many people cry. Take 'murder'. All societies agree that murder is wrong, its rule number 1. Murder is wrong. Yet, with particualr
circumstances, we can be persuaded murder is acceptible - eg. wars, taking out kidnappers or suicide bombers, euthanasia etc. Every so called
'right' can be seen from a very particualr viewpoint and justified to a culture that otherwise says murder is 'WRONG'.
Ergo, nothing is right or wrong, its all dependent on the context. And context is the evolved history of laws and societal behaviours. A current
example is the globalisation of the planet bringing friction over the silliest of things we hold dear. Take muslim women wanting to wear the veil in
Western societies where this is seen as daft or for identification purposes not acceptible. People are dying to protect something they see as right
where the rest of the world sees as daft. Trying to ram square bricks into shrinking global round holes. The homogenisation of humanities culture is
inevitable, but those that grasp blindly to cultural loyalties will suffer most.
Free will is stripping back all the layers of dance and ceremony - understand WHY you do something, where it originated from and then ask yourself
"Do I really need to do this?"
My partner and I are now dabblers in sexual swinging. Not becuase we are sexual perverts with bizarre fetishes - but simply because it proves that we
have control of our thoughts and therefore our emotions. Emotions ruin lives and emotions are not 'instincts; as some think. Emotions are
manifestations of thought so ingrained in you that you cannot reconcile. If you told me 5 years ago I would watch another man and my wife in sexual
extasy oh how I wouldve laughed. Now, becuase I controlled my will, I see it as perfectly natural. I use this example because sexual possession and
jelaousy is SOOooo ingrained in our species that it is possibly the hardest one to overcome if you have grown up with it. If that can be overcome,
then any belief can be overcome and the emotions neutered.
If we taught this skill of undertsanding why a cultural meme is in place, then we can still choose it for ourselves so we dont stand aside from the
herd too much - and thus incite the 'kill the oddball' mentality of said herd.
But If we taught this skill of seeing every rule and law as arbitrary, perhaps it wouldnt be so hard to change when change is needed............. Get
out of your culture and see another's viewpoint!!!