posted on Dec, 17 2012 @ 07:26 AM
With all the chaos going on in the world and things getting worse; I have a theory based on my experiences; my friends experiences; and my GF's
experiences she is a high school teacher. Correction is not child abuse...we ARE animals; whether anyone wants to believe that or not...all animals
need training; some animals are more difficult to train; in the old days they called it breaking; as in breaking the animals natural tendencies to
adapt to the situation and environment appropriately, instead of like a caged beast.
The problem really is society; it is not getting better it is getting worse...this has nothing to do with guns or video games or anything else. What
are the punishments for children since 1970?
in the 70's and before. Actions had a clear consequence; teachers and parents could paddle...the butt is a nice fleshy area that can take some whacks
with no physical side effect other than a reminder to consequences when one sits down, mental effects yes there are some; but they are positive.
Anywhere other than the rear end is abuse...When I was in school; seeing a paddle alone, was enough for the majority to obey the rules. I know I
didn't want to get paddled, so seeing one or someone getting paddled was a reminder, of why we obey the rules. Even if it was out of fear it was
Now? punishment...no paddle you'll get lawsuits or jailed. The alternatives...hours kids have to stay after school. The teachers don't want to sit
an extra hour or two after class...they have other things to do; so many just let the small stuff slide. Ok larger stuff in school suspension...they
get to do their class work in another room...a change of scenery seems more as a vacation away from the drudgery than anything else. Next highest
offence; same as the last but now the child gets to take some days off and relax at home.
Starting to see the problem here? The punishments are not punishments...it reinforces bad behavior. If I don't want to be in class; act out...yay I
win now I am in a different class...I don't want to to be at school at all; curse the teacher, yay now I get to stay home. These punishments; do not
have a real consequence that is unwanted. At home a parent can restrict the child's freedoms. You can't play until you do your homework...that is if
the parents are even at home...then they can just police themselves do whatever they want. There's no structure; in a situation like that; why should
both parents work, if there are two; if daycare etc. costs just as much as your second income? Daycare teachers can't punish, they can only shift the
child around to another daycare.
Children need at least one parent in constant social contact; from ages zero to 5 years old. These are the formative years in social development. The
person at 5 years old; will behave the same when they are an adult. There's a documentary series called UP where a psychologist interviewed children
in England; and checked in on them every decade...the last one the children were in their 40's. Their drives and who they were at 5 persisted
throughout their whole lives; even through experiences and wisdom gained from the experience...that child was still there.
Yes it's a scary thought...but society has gotten severely worse; since corporal punishment; disappeared and dual career families appeared.
I know I can't be alone on this; I and all of my friends and family...have been spanked or feared it; except for two. One of those has been in jail
and fight numerous times and is an alcoholic and drug abuser; the other was committed to a state mental hospital, and is a self admitted sociopath.
Both of them; got every toy etc they ever asked for and neither ever got spanked or feared it. All the ones that have received physical correction; or
were too scared to receive it I know; are law abiding productive members of society.
Perhaps fear of consequence is the key that fits the lock in all of this? Because the consequences now; are inconsequential.