posted on Dec, 16 2012 @ 11:25 PM
Firstly, congrats on wanting to meditate. It is a big step to actually want to do it, since it is essentially doing nothing. I had a hard time getting
the hang of it so I will just tell you what helped me. First, you need to find out what position your body should be in where you can be completely
relaxed. You don't want any of your muscles tensed. I find that the classic 'neutral position' works best for me. This is where you are flat on
your back with your arms at your sides, palms up, and with your legs out and bent slightly towards each other, so the soles of your feet are facing
each other. Once you are familiar with how to relax yourself it's fun to try other positions but I found this position to be very helpful for
teaching myself the mental aspect of meditation, but I digress. Once you are somewhat relaxed, start concentrating on your breath. Most how-tos will
tell you to breathe as deep as you can right away, but in my experience, this will slow you down. It's difficult to give accurate direction here
because everyone is different. What you want to do is breathe at a rate that YOU personally find relaxing. If it is quick and shallow, it's ok as
long as it relaxes you. As you get more relaxed, you should find taking deeper breaths to be easier to accomplish and more relaxing.
Your first goal should be to relax yourself to the point of your body being asleep, without your mind following suit. You want to build your mind's
resilience so that you can eventually go into very deep meditative states without getting distracted by outside influences. (or falling asleep) Now,
sometimes people meditate while thinking about something, and sometimes they meditate with an empty mind. I find emptying my mind to be much more
challenging and rewarding, but focusing on something (most simply your breath) is an excellent way to get your mind used to not doing anything, so
that you will be able to get your mind to that empty state.
As far as goals go, meditation is the kind of thing that will take you a great deal of time to get to the point where you will feel that you are
really 'good' at it. You will probably fall asleep as you are learning. It is important that you don't let that discourage you. You will get better
at it every time as long as you go into it with some determination.
Last thing, this is the reason I am answering your question right now, do what feels right TO YOU. There are people who will tell you that you are
meditating wrong if you can't sit in full lotus, or if you aren't doing some chant in your head (or aloud). Meditation can be used to achieve higher
states of consciousness, but you will not be able to do any of the really complicated stuff if you don't understand the basics. I think this is why a
lot of people don't really get into meditation. There is all kinds of information on how to do it 'right.' Remember that you are different from
everyone else in the world, and regardless of established meditative techniques and schools, this all starts with learning how to command your body
and mind independently of one another. Learning to quiet will change your life forever, you just have to figure out how to do it.
I hope I was helpful. Best of luck to you in your travels