I feel stirred to respond on two points:
One, the idea that has come up everywhere (not only on this site) that people passionately wanting to know and discuss the killer and the question of
weapons control, is evidence that they don't care about the victims of this tragedy.
I think that is false. Now, my kids being european and never having been exposed to the american ideals, asked me this morning- "How can americans
even consider having guns when they have stuff like this happen so often???'
I explained that when stuff like this happens, half the people, in their shock, dismay, and horror, say to themselves "It is because anyone can pick
up a gun that this happened. We must get rid of the guns, quick"
The other half in the same state of shock, dismay and horror, say to themselves, "If other people present had had a gun armed and ready in their
pocket, this would not have happened! We must get them guns, quick!"
It is a chicken and egg question... but it is stimulated by the concern people feel at this event,
and their desire to act so that they can
figure out how this could come about and take action to prevent it ever happening again.
That is not inhumane intent. It might be something like the husband that can't just listen to your need to vent without trying to take care of it,
granted... but that is just how some people digest things.
Secondly, the question of tact. The concept of class has traditionally been associated with sensitivity. (remember the Princess and the Pea?) the
ability to be sensitive was nurtured and developed in the higher classes and royalty, through protecting them from harsh or challenging life
The benefit is in diplomatic affairs- the people of (protected)- royal or high class ancestry, would be the ones dealing with diplomatic exchanges
with other tribes, kingdoms or nations. They would have to be sensitive enough (empathic enough) to be able to adapt and step out of their usual
framework of culture and experience, to be able to understand and communicate effectively with other peoples very different from their own.
So consider that when we speak of class and tact. It requires great sensitivity and ability to empathize... to an extent that would be detrimental to
many "normal" types of lifestyles and experiences. Having 'a tougher skin' is more advantageous in many life paths which do not include travel and
exchange with different peoples. It is too much to expect, and in many cases, would be detrimental.
The content is there, in the intent... the form may be less than tactful at times, but honestly, unless the parents are present; that is less
edit on 15-12-2012 by Bluesma because: (no reason given)