There are some basic biological truths that underlie our relationships with the opposite sex. In today's modern societies we like to pay lip service
to "absolute equality" across tha board. In a world where women never got pregnant and people did not raise their own families, you could probably
come close to achieving absolute equality, but, unfortunately in some people's view, biology tends to intrude on absolute equality and so our ideas of
absolute equality are rather nastily tested as a result.
Using the "selfish gene theory" we all are simply carrying out the dictates of survival as mandated by our genes. Woman want a feathered nest to raise
children successfully, protected by a strong male. She'll go for the "rich man" who can do this for her. That is a survival characteristic because her
children might not survive to adulthood unless so protected. Men want the freedom to sleep around because disseminating his genes is a survival
characteristic. He is more likely to have offspring and spread his genes. He'll choose a large breasted curvaceous and "pretty" woman because good
looks denotes good health. Large breasts means plenty of milk. Wide hips means an easier birth, no matter what the social status. The two strategies
are diametrically opposed to one another, but for each sex, it works.
We're currently facing a feminization of the culture. Because of intrusive biology, women want to be accommodated for not just pregnancy, but also for
the fact that raising children can put them out of the workforce for a time, thus helping cause the 'glass ceiling." Women do not accumulate as much
experience, therefore the time-in-grade requirements, whether or not they are overt, are not met. It's very much like an enlisted person who is
promoted to sergeant, then gains a commission. He'll very likely never rise above Lt. Colonel not because he isn't smart enough, but because he
doesn't have enough time. If that happens to men, tough. If it happens to women, that's "discrimination." Bottom Line is that women want the same 100%
opportunities as men, and also want to be accommodated for their biology.
Men, on the other hand, are not accommodated, at least not officially. It is expected they remain true to their partners and not wander off. If they
do, it's grounds for divorce and oh, the hurt! It's palpable. So men get no outlet and are expected to conform to the feminine ideal. In times past,
that wasn't true. Victorian England men had their mistresses. Ottoman men had their harems. Men of the Nuer warrior caste in India had a matrilineal
society where mother's brother (uncle) ruled, but men showed up on the side.
Today, here, we have none of that. But a lot of the bioloogical imperative still rules. That's where the previous poster is right: Women marry up. Men
marry equal or down the social ladder. And men are under cosntant seige. They are criticized because they like naked women. It's porn! They are
criticized if their sex drives lead them outside of marriage. They are criticized if they do not accommodate the biological imperatives of women. Yet
women can still marry up.
It's not really an ideal time to be a male.
edit on 12/14/2012 by schuyler because: (no reason given)