posted on Dec, 15 2012 @ 08:13 AM
First of all... I love you. I swear to god I do.
Like most stories, this one starts at the beginning.... We'll take a quote from yourself, if you don't mind...
"It usually starts off with me getting ignored....and I feel I must up the tempo to get noticed or heard or whatever" (Note: this quote is an
approximation made by me and carries no guarantee of accuracy.
I believe the core of your problem lies within this statement.
You believe you are being ignored, and you don't seem to like that very much. And that leads to more problems.
You have to ask yourself... Why are they ignoring you?
Ok, what I'm about to say might seem rude or whatever, but there could be something about you that you honestly don't realize, that is making a huge
first impression on the people around you. Your family is probably afraid to say anything cause they love you and they don't want to hurt your
feelings...especially if they can sense that you are sensitive. So, with the goal being to help you, I'm going to list off some things that may be
causing an undesired reaction in social situations... Because I went from a more rural, small community, to the 3rd largest city in my state when I
was 12 or 13. And there were certain habits and behaviors and even little sayings of mine that were, shall we say, embarrassing and unattractive...
Luckily my best friend who I hadn't seen in 5 or 6 years lived in the city and he was not afraid to tell me when I was acting like a dork or scaring
away the chicks.
Basically, we are gonna do a run down of the senses...
First, one obvious thing would be smells... Although my legal guardians never taught me this, I learned from my best friend and from school how
important hygiene really is. You must shower at least every other day. Just because YOU don't smell anything, that doesn't mean you don't stink!
Even if you smell like something good, you won't realize how you smell most of the time because you get used to the smell and you will not notice it.
Just like if you light a scented candle and sit in the room for an hour with it, you won't notice the scent as much, but if someone were to enter the
room, they would immediately be overtaken with this new scent and would probably comment how good it smells. So, with the knowledge that you yourself
may not notice what you smell like, the best course of action is to take no chances. Shower every day. Use deoderant and cologne (or purfume if
you're female). I think the deoderant that doesn't contain aluminum is better for you, although some say that almost every deoderant, shampoo, body
wash/shower gel/soap, body spray, toothpaste and just about everything is full of harmful chemicals. So you can do research if you want to find
something natural AND safe... Remember natural does not always mean safe. There are a lot of poisons and venoms and unsafe things in nature. In the
mean time just use something. Anything is better than nothing.
Another thing I'm not sure if SOME people realize or not, is that, when you shower, although it is ok to wash your hair every other shower, I prefer
to do it every shower even though it washes out my own "natural healthy oils"... But what I was going to say, is, when you work the shampoo through
your hair, once you get it all through to the scalp and your whole head of hair is saturated by the shampoo, you need to let it sit for 2 or 3 minutes
before you rinse it out. It makes a difference. So, during this waiting period you could lather up your face with some face wash (a seperate product
than what you use on your body. You can use the same soap, body wash, shower gel, whatever on your face as you do your body, but, I use a Nutrogena
face wash. Then by the time you've got everything above the shoulders lathered and scrubbed good with a fresh, clean washcloth, then you can probably
rinse off both your face and your hair at the same time. You can count to 20 or 30 to be safe, but I always rinse off immediately because I don't
want any to seep into my eyes. Pay special attention to the oily areas around the nose and forehead and chin. ("The T-Zone") Also, from spending
months at a time living in a tent in the mountains of the Pacific Northwest, I know that the area behind the ears, as well as the belly button, can
get to smelling pretty funky when they have not received the amount of attention they require, so always scrub those areas good...some people don't
realize that soap and shampooo must touch every part of your body, and every part of your body must be scrubbed with a clean cloth, sponge, loofa,
whatever. Then the obvious places to maybe pay some extra attention to would be the armpits, crotch including genitals and anal region, and feet
including between the toes. It's easier to clean if your body is well groomed. I don't grow hair on my chest or back, but if you do you may consider
shaving as well as the genital region and if you're a female you might Oh, out of characters. Well pm me if you want me to finish.