posted on Dec, 10 2012 @ 05:12 PM
The key to confidence is being proactive about the health of your mind, body, and soul. People immediately respect those who take care of themselves.
Confidence also doesn't come overnight, you must build it gradually.
Body: Workout, eat healthy, maintain a clean appearance. Don't do it out of vanity, but understand that by being healthy and looking good, you
radiate positivity. It is also an outward reflection of the discipline,self control, and care you put into yourself. Most people are too lazy to care
what goes into their bodies because they know how much time and effort it requires, and will respect people who do put such time and effort. And
don't preach to others about it, let your appearance speak for itself.
Mind: Learn as much as you can. Be able to talk to others about a wide range of subjects. Learn from your peers. Speak clearly and intelligently,
reducing the usage of 'um' and 'like'. Look people in the eye when speaking to them. Place importance on them and they will place importance on
you. Balance your intellectual confidence with humility and modesty, understanding that no matter how awesome you are, there is always room for
improvement. Play up your strengths, your individuality, any unique talents or skills.
Soul: No matter what your belief system is, find a source of empowering and positive motivation. Find the beauty in life. Find meaning. When your soul
is healthy and you feel happy, anything is possible. Negativity and things like fear of rejection or insecurity become things you can tackle. They are
part of life but when you are confident and happy, you give yourself the tools to deal with them appropriately. Love freely, trust people, don't be
closed minded, fearful, or stubborn. Give people the benefit of the doubt, understanding they may disappoint you, but also understanding the path of
love and trust strengthens you in the long run.
Confidence is very much internal, but it goes hand in hand with the reactions and interactions of others to your efforts. In order for others to
respect you (doesn't mean they have to like you), you must give them a reason. Being smart, healthy, and happy by doing such things as I mentioned
above will win you respect over time, which will boost your confidence. This was my manual for transforming myself from a victim into a confident
individual. It takes time and insecurity never goes away completely, but it's more a blip on my radar rather than a debilitating factor in my social
life. I know that I am doing everything I can to be the best that I can be, and that gives me a reason to love and respect myself. And as many said,
when you love and respect yourself, others will love and respect you back. Life and your reality is merely a reflection of what goes on in your head.