posted on Dec, 5 2012 @ 04:29 AM
Now here is a forum I didn't think I would be making a thread in (as I thought I had this all under wraps)...
I got out of a long relationship a couple years ago that was on the cusp of marriage. Dated a few girls until I met one that ended up moving away. Her
and I were together for about 12 months although it was entirely casual, but she did something by kind of shifting my goals towards looking for
something longterm again.
Since her, I met two girls around the same time, had a brief fling with the one and the other had a significant other so it didn't materialize to
anything. The fling turned into something long distance with no commitment, but then I found 2 or 3 other girls for casual steady dating in
So... Fast forward to today and the fling and I have been discussing making a few changes in our lives to be together, and I'm ready to drop the
other casual girls by the wayside. The problem, is the girl that I met right during the fling, happens to get back in contact with me and is
interested now that her and her relationship has dwindled.
So, I'm not getting any younger. And marriage is in the cards whether I like it or not. The problem is the initial feelings I had for the fling and
the untouchable girl, were about equal when I met the two of them. Both have their negative qualities but are completely outweighed by their good
qualities. I'm leaning more on the untouchable girl simply because I have a few things more in common with her, except that I have been talking about
planning to move forward with the fling girl.
Now I feel like I'm in a rock and a hard place, because I have been secretly swooning over the one girl, but she was entirely out of my reach. Now
that she is in the picture, I feel like I'm letting down the other girl knowing however, that the one is probably a better match for me.
No clue what to do... I think maybe this is a rant more than anything.
I swear I've gone through dry spells with no girls in my life at all and then all of a sudden they pop out of every corner making the choices