reply to post by redreemer
Not just a draining, sometimes, you may even feel "emotionally sore." from this process. Or it may not be at an emotional level. Just like if your
muscles hurt from training. It's body building. It's a skill. You can learn to resolve a great quantity of suffering quickly. At first, for some, it
may take an hour to resolve the pain of an argument, or an incident of road rage. But with practice, that hour gets shortened to minutes.
I am at the point that a few years ago I guided a relative in the experience of death, and I mourned everything on my end within the passing of a few
breathes, in order to resolve the wisdom.
What I suggest is, build your skills on moment to moment, day to day issues if discomfort, disagreement, upset. You'll become more efficient. I went
to an extreme so now it is extremely rare when I will feel tired or sore, unless I crack through a dream that I was unwittingly clutching on to, and
experience a heartbreak, but even there, being drained is rare.
For people who are pretty sexually active, or who have a history of drug use, or if you have experienced a lot of trauma in your life, being drained,
passing out, feeling involuntary twitches, etc is common. Observe any muscular recations or pains that come.
To soothe yourself, you can sit as the observer, being aware that you are aware for awhile. I also suggest being your threshold by contemplating joy
or love, for 15 minutes a day, working to an hour a day for a month. You will overwhelm yourself and experience an extreme level experience. But if
your notice too great of a reaction that you cannot manage, be humble, have compassion for yourself, and work on your system to heal it. Observe the
body, the mind, the heart, whatever reacts.
That should answer a bit beyond the scope of your question, and give other readers some ideas of what else to do with this experience. "What is love
before people existed to label the experience?"