Originally posted by mblahnikluver
When my neighbors and others expressed annoyance over her I felt relief! I was like ok it's NOT just me!!! I don't know if she owns her place or not
but i don't care, she needs to respect other people here. It's a small complex and everyone else is quiet so I dont know why she can't be either.
During the day its whatever I dont care, there are all kinds of noises outside i can't control but at night i dont want to hear it. I like to enjoy
the breeze and have my doors open but I can't because of her. Hopefully she will learn a lesson and pipe down her tone!
I know that you probably don't feel like it, but sometimes the best way to deal with an annoying neighbour is to make nice to them, and kill the
problem with kindness. It is very easy to get into a vicious circle with these things, and you (and baby) do not need the stress. Consider popping a
card in her postbox, apologising (even though you don't feel sorry) for complaining, but that after a really difficult week, you just reached the end
of your tether and desperately needed some rest. Perhaps, subtly, mention some of the things that you have overheard, and sympathise with her
problems. Sometimes, people in the heat of the moment, don't realise quite how much people can hear, and she may be embarassed that you know so much
about her personal life. Tell a few white lies, say you've been there, done that, and let her know that others, not you, are planning on going to
the management company and that you don't want to see her get into any trouble when she clearly has enough on her plate. Again, I realise that you
probably don't want to be this nice to her, but sometimes, in the long run, it is the easiest way to deal with a problem, going direct to the source,
in a none threatening way. Some people just lack the self-awareness to be considerate, but it is worth a try.
What you don't want to do, is end up in a few months time, when you are coping with a screaming baby at all hours of the night, having to deal with
neighbours who are complaining about you and trying to get you evicted. It pays to think ahead, and treat others as you yourself wish to be treated.
I really do understand, it is not easy I know, but worth a try don't you think? And if it doesn't work, you haven't really lost anything, but have
gained the knowledge that you did at least try to reason with her and took the higher ground, which will count in your favour later on when baby is