posted on Dec, 4 2012 @ 04:16 AM
From my experience the one sure thing that will make a woman gain wait. Getting married!
I swear, it's like you marry a 130 pound bride, and wake up the next day with a 180 pound wife.
I kid, I kid... ( not really but being flamed hurts my feelings. )
I've always been skinny - or at least from about 18 years onward. I am 5'11 and spent the majority of my best years weighing about 140 pounds (
dunno kilo's sorry. American here! ) - which is like Skeletor skinny. But I was, and am still, as strong as most guys twice my size.
When I was younger I went through what you are going through now. I got very self-conscious just about that point in time ( late eighties, early
nineties ) when suddenly every guy in the world suddenly was built like Schwarzenegger. At that time I didn't just ask my doctor for steroids, I
basically threatened him with great bodily harm if he DID NOT give me what I was demanding.
Thankfully for me, he refused. Since that time I've had a few friends, who had those Schwarzenegger like builds die very young and of a plethora of
weird medical issues I personally feel were probably the result of steroid use. I now think about that and ponder on the reality that my vanity, then,
could have robbed me of the future I am currently in possession of.
My heart really does reach out to you on this issue. I know how stigmatizing being thin can be. Sometimes the way people look at you - you just know
that they are assuming you must be sick, with cancer, or AIDS, or something... Some even going out of there way to avoid getting close to you. The
vast majority of people aren't this way - but a few are. And not only is it embarrassing, it's extremely hurtful and destructive ones own
Should you ever end up depressed... it's common knowledge that most antidepressants cause weight gain. About three years ago I was put on a
medication called Seroquel, which is not an antidepressant, but my doctor had had success, previously, using it, off label, in that capacity. In about
three months I gained forty pounds - almost all of it in my stomach. I looked like a pregnant pipe cleaner. It was horrible! Especially since one of
the few perks of having always been thin is that I had perpetual "washboard abs".
I freaked, changed meds, and found myself, quite ironically, doing exercises to LOOSE the weight!
I'm 46 and my metabolism slowed a couple of years back - allowing me to gain about thirty pounds the natural way and in a manner that distributed it
mostly equally. My legs are now a bit less hard than I am accustomed to or happy with. But not terribly so.
Oh, and now I have a butt!
FTR: If that is you in the vid, you are a stunningly attractive woman who seems to be intelligent, well spoken, and good natured - so don't be so
hard on yourself!