posted on Dec, 2 2012 @ 10:13 AM
Originally posted by arpgme
So even giving up the power, control over your life, you will still gain the freedom - because now you are free of responsibility of your life (as
life will just carry you along and you just go with it).
Yeah... I mean look at it this way- we like surprises, right? Or at least some of us do. Christmas morning presents.. not knowing what is in store for
you. Even in sports or hobbies, sometimes seeing how fast you can respond to whatever is thrown at you unexpectedly is exciting! Recieving from
others, that has it's upside... maybe it's just because I am female, but I totally understand the pelasure in being on the recieving end.
so what is everyone's ideal for life? Compassion? Power? Freedom? I am curious to see which people hold as their highest virtue. Maybe this
should have been a new thread..
I have found that I am happiest if I experience a bit of everything? We have different roles in our life, different relationships, that enable us to
experience different parts of ourself, and that can be one way we can have it all.
Like having a different role at home than you do at work. In my family, my husband has responsibility, power and autonomy in his job, but at home he
likes to be the one who is not in charge. Here he can be the passive one- he trusts me enough for that. I know it is not because he can't
dominating at home, it's just that he needs a break from the responsibility- a rest, a moment of being the follower to recharge the batteries.
I have roles in which I am the passive one too (I take lessons in my favorite sport) and that is a joy to me.
I seek balance most of all. But it doesn't have to be in the same relationship. Like dieting, I don't need the four food groups in the same meal, I
can eat four meals a day with one food group in each!
Relationships, and powerplays, allow us to vary our experience of self too!
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